Ladies, avoid a younger man
20 November 2015, 14:13
Nairobi - You are a woman in your thirties, let us say from 32 onwards
and you are looking to settle down and actually have a family. You are looking
to settle down and be with someone. You are looking to settle down because
everything else in your life is set except finding that one person. You are
also looking to settle down because you are just tired of the up and down of
dating and going to clubs.
Some will say it is because you wasted your prime years
ignoring the ones that came, true maybe. Others will say it is because you
wasted your prime years being too picky.
Anyway, my point is when you are at that age, do not waste
your time thinking that you can give the younger guy a chance. Not the one year
younger but we are talking about real age gaps like he is in his 20s. You will
end up wasting more time trying to make him into what you want and realizing he
will never be that.
That younger guy might actually have good intention, have
that ‘age is nothing but a number’ phrase on point taking it out of his hat
every time you bring it up but take note of your gut if it is pinging no, take
that no. Most guys in the 20s are still trying to figure themselves out; thirty
year olds apply here too. He will have his business and career working out
great so you think, he is mature. He might be but do not take the concept of
work and apply it to relationships when it comes to older women dating a
He is figuring himself out on your time, you are helping him out on your time; reality sets in and he starts realizing that he is
not ready for a family and neither is he ready for a woman who will age faster
than he will. As he is getting to that
realization, here you are having wasted a year or two already thinking he will
get there but now he starts telling you he is ready to wait for the one for
him. Do not make that mistake. Now you are like 35 and menopause has hit, do
you see how you have wasted some precious time?
It is okay to look at your fellow age mate and think he has
baggage that is why he is single but pick that and work with that rather than
run yourself round a circus thinking you can mature a younger man’s brain in
the span of your cycle. Women in their 30s or 40s; unless you want to don’t be
someone’s mentor but choose to have a relationship with someone who will
actually add more into your life. At the end of the day, you are a woman and
you thrive better in an intellectual and wise environment with age as compared
to the men who can work being mentors to the younger ladies perfectly.
Do not waste your time chasing the younger man in your age
because I am telling you; you will regret it if it is a partner, family and
companionship that you are looking for. Wasted time for you is not a cheap commodity.
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