Kids who lie are smarter
13 July 2016, 13:05
Your child is a liar, and research has shown that he or she has been lying to you since infancy, crying when there was no need, pretending to be hurt or hungry just so you can lavish some attention on them. Research has also shown that you should be excited by the fact that your little one is such a good liar.
Children begin taking you for a ride from about the age of two upwards. They lie for an increasing range of reasons and with increasing skill, and the earlier they begin the better. They lie because they can’t tell fact and fantasy apart, because they want you to think better of them, or they want to spare you some agony.
Science says that kids who lie are smarter, more likely to be successful in life and the chances of this happening are enhanced when the kids start out young.
According to a research by psychologists from the University of North Florida and the University of Sheffield, lying early indicates the achievement of an important development milestone.
To tell an effective and convincing fib is to successfully manipulate information and social situations. This manipulation requires a lot of abstract thinking, which involves prediction, imagination and creativity, all hallmarks of intelligence. It also requires an understanding of social mechanics and an ability to communicate well.
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This same skill-set is the absolute gold in navigating today’s no holds barred cut throat world. Today’s world more than ever demands the competitive edge quick thinking, creativity and social intelligence provides. Dr. Kang Lee, director of the Institute of Child Study at the University of Toronto says that children who have demonstrated such skills through lying are well placed to be successful; they may even be bankers. I promise they shall prosper as waheshimiwa.
So good liars make successful people, we have seen, and so you should not stress that your child is in the habit of stretching the truth a bit. Lying in kids is pretty normal and goes away as the child grows older. But while telling tales may be indicative of high intelligence, chronic lying should not be encouraged. Honesty is the basis on which relationships are built, and pathological liars find themselves unable to form any lasting relationships. They cannot keep a job, will not be able to maintain personal relationships and will lose the very important support systems such relationships provide.
Also, chronic lying may be indicative of the social environment the child is exposed to. Harsh and controlling parents motivate a child to lie, and a child with self esteem issues will lie to enhance his image in the eyes of others. Children with ADHD are wont to lie as they don’t think through before they speak. All these are issues that impact on a child’s psycho-social development and ability to learn. They are concerns that should be discovered and addressed at the earliest opportunity. Lying is a sign your child is smart, but it may also be a cry for help.
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