Is it better if you actually stayed at home to take care of your child yourself?
15 June 2016, 13:56
Nairobi - It seems the only safe way to be a mother
in Kenya at the moment is if you choose to stay at home with your child until
that moment they can actually take care of themselves.
What am I talking about?
I used to tell myself because I want the
best for my kids and family I would have to go out and work and so what happens
to the child? Hire a maid of course. It used to be simple, direct, to the point
and served all our needs.
I just don’t mistreat someone’s daughter,
give her a job and treat her like my own sister, she takes care of my kids, I
pay her and my child is fine. Seems that was a foolish idea. It is emerging
that you can actually not trust your house help. No matter how good you treat
her, at the end of the day, if you leave you do not know what she is up to.
Oh wait, nanny cam. Right? Wrong. At the end of the day, if she does something
on a particular day and leaves, it has already been done and you cannot change
it. There is no way you are going to win, you will find out about it but your
child was collateral damage-they still got hurt.
You can no longer even trust your child to
play on the streets or take themselves to school. Kenyan criminals have been
watching too many movies and they have apparently upgraded their game. They are
now stealing children from the road, demanding money like they think Kenyans
have millions stashed somewhere and killing the child if the demands are not
met. If you meet them, the child is still killed. Your child is not safe, the
worst part is, it is normally the person you know and they know your business.
And when you are thinking that the maid is safe, she will just come and tell
you, they roughed her up and she might be in on it too. That is how it works.
So your maid is not an option either.
Parenting has just taken a different tone
for us because if you are not doing it personally, you have to be on your toes.
Unless you really trust that person, and you know them, you cannot leave your
child with anyone that you just picked from somewhere or someone sent to you.
I am thinking I might just end up living
with some relatives and I just don’t like relatives, they are full of drama.
Then they will start stories on how you are using them. My relatives are not
good people, I hope that my husband will have better ones than the ones I have.
Because as a parent, that might just be the only option we have if you are
considering working and not staying at home. One person cannot comfortably earn
enough to take care of a family in Kenya; with that 2.3 trillion shilling
budget, we are about to have it rough as Kenyans.
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