Is he hiding something from you?
03 March 2016, 13:56
Nairobi - As much as it is interesting and entertaining for me and
everybody else when someone decides to publicize their personal life and hang
their dirty laundry for us, it is also embarrassing. For them, not for me or
for us but embarrassing for them; especially if they choose to use something
like Facebook to rant about what so and so did to them. If it is your friend,
you bow your head down in shame for them. Then you pray no one knows of your
association because now your image is also tainted.
Then there is also the other half that will swallow the lie,
‘No one needs to know about us. This is our business. Why do we have to post
photos to let them know?’
Of course I am all for privacy when it comes to my personal
life especially when it comes to hand holding and posing for photos. But you
have got to ask yourself why someone wants to keep you hidden especially if
they are the ones insisting on it.
Being kept private is akin to you being someone’s dirty
little secret and that is what it probably is. If someone does not want to take
you out on a date or he/ she does not want to take you somewhere and when you
bring up that conversation they shut it down, you have to ask yourself why. Are
you ugly? Are you not up to the standards they brag to everybody about? Or what
are they hiding? Are they already married or in a relationship? At times you
meet someone, they invite you over one time and you think they are single. The
woman is probably on some trip and that is why the next time you want to come
over, it is a closed case. ‘I am not around.’ ‘My family is over and it would
be uncomfortable because we have not dated that long for me to invite you with
them.’ ‘The boys spent the night; you would not be comfortable now; would you?’
That is someone keeping you private. You are a part of his
life that is set aside for when he needs a let out and when he/she is done,
they put you back on the shelf up until next time. It is not that you are a
side chick by the way; they might just be single perhaps. Thing is, they just
don’t want to be seen with you because they don’t deem you appropriate enough
for their class or standard.
Keeping your relationship private does not mean that someone
hides you or that they don’t want to post photos because they are already taken.
It just means they are analogue-they are private.
At times your personal business needs to stay personal.
Don’t embarrass yourself by telling people what your man or woman recently did.
That is nice, people are done for better but they just know, it is for them and
not for us. At times you are boasting about how something was flown in for you
and someone saw them pick it up at some street shop along Koinange Street. You
end up looking dumb.
Don’t have an argument and go post about it and how the
entire species is evil-remember a few months ago you also talked about how much
to the moon and back they meant to you. Delete that post first then update.
Keep your issues private that way, when you are tumbling
down, there will be no one to shade you, remind you, ridicule you or insult
you. You will still have your pride intact even though that area got messed up.
Dare you publicize your affairs and they break. The shame that you will suffer
is never for one day but for years. Can you imagine when you are about to get
married and your boyfriend clicks on a feed you forgot about. Then a lie you
told unwittingly questions just one thing. That is what public relationships do
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