Is he emotionally unavailable?
10 July 2016, 15:28
We date hoping to learn about the other person and gauge if they match the qualities we are looking for in a spouse. In the process, we fall in love which sometimes affects our thinking. We tend to tolerate some irritating things and self-justify the action.
There are typical signs you should look out for in your date. They are indicators of an emotionally unavailable man - even if tied to the back, he will just never be there for you.
1) He never keeps his promises. He is quick to make promises but never fulfills them. Worse still, he does not give an explanation why he couldn't, and won't even apologise. He simply assumes all is well.
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2) He is ready for sex from the first date. Men who talk about sex the first time you meet are not interested in your good qualities for a life partner. They want to lay you at their own leisure. Sexual pleasure is what connects you to them. They will talk to you more when they need some and soon after disappear until they have an urge.
3) He never honours your invitations. You invite him to a friend's or family party and he simply gives strange excuses. Not just once but every time one comes up. If he is not by your side right now, he will not be there after tying the knot.
4) He only uses either texts or Whatsapp to communicate. A man who wants to know what's going on in your life will call, not just limit communication to texts and chats. There is more connection when you hear the voice of your partner than reading texts and chats economising on words. Sometimes you learn people by how they express themselves verbally. If he does not call then he is not ready to commit to you.
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