03 October 2016, 17:50
Nairobi - I don’t think that is what it is called but
what do you call it when you find out the people closest to you are the one’s betraying
your marriage for you?
For example: when you find out your sister
has been sleeping with your husband. Or your wife has been cheating with your
brother. Or it is a cousin…just a close family relation.
I have two sisters. One, I do not see doing
some things but the other one I totally can. Let me give you a bit of a small
background as to why I think this way. This sister is the one that gives a new
meaning to sibling rivalry. She broke up with a boyfriend because she did not
feel he does for her as much as mine does for me. The next one I got around
her; she flirted to a very dangerous extent. You know there is harmless
flirting, then there is dangerous flirting- she was the latter which gave me a
window into her mind.
There are some people who never understand
why a certain family member no matter how dire their straits they will not be
invited to stay overnight. Any other person, this woman will not have a problem
with; they can even stay a week. But there is this one that when it gets to
4pm, you see them being asked where they are spending the night.
It is because that person saw the writing
on the wall a long time ago.
We would all love to have family members we
got along with, did not have to have an issue with and we could all just live
and love. Who would not love to have sleep overs with their sisters?
It is very hurtful and shameful for a person
when the person that is closest to you is the one that easily betrays you. 1.
You can either speak about it or 2. You keep your mouth shut so as not to look
bad 3. When nobody understands and everybody is telling you to get over it and
forgive them- How?
This is why some people take very serious
measure when a relationship or the person they are married to is very important
to them. No offense, when you see where they are coming from.
They will not want this sister, brother,
cousin, relation… near their spouse because as they say; prevention has always
been better than cure.
You will wonder why this older sister
living in town will not let her younger sister come and stay with her while she
looks for a job. People are not stupid; no one wants to co-wife with someone
that carries some issues with them from childhood. Co-wife for any simple thing
for that matter. Can you imagine your face when your younger sister comes and
tells you your husband is responsible for her pregnancy? Where will you even
start, where will you go with that? What if she is proud of herself and does
not mind being wife number two?
Don’t judge someone when you see them
trying to protect their spouse, you do not know the back story between some
family and some relationships. So when you see someone try to find
accommodation for their relation yet they have a 5 bedroom house that has three
free, it is not in your place to talk- keep quiet!
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