If your woman has issues, get another one
09 September 2016, 13:02
Nairobi - I was sitting around wondering what to
write about today. I almost did not tell you this story.
I was in a tuktuk (I don’t know what it is called in English; rickshaw or
something); so we get to a point and the driver wants to take me some other
place to pick up another client but I was already running late for work. So I
tell him to just let me off I go. In that frenzy some guy stops and offers a
ride and for some reason I was just like there was no way I was going to let
that tuktuk driver find me there on
his way back. The shame!
I get in and I had not even noticed the
child sitting at the back until it was time to be dropped off to school
(someone is in trouble because mum is totally going to be told about the woman
dad picked in the morning).
Soon after we are off; you cannot believe
the excitement I had for evading to pay that fare from the diaspora.
He starts conversation and what do Kenyan
men like talking about? Women!
His story though was how it is okay for a
husband to get a second and a third wife when the other one starts acting up.
Apparently, the reason men resort to
getting more female company is when you, the wife stop acting as you should.
How did he mean? Catering for him, running after him, being submissive and
doing what you should do as a wife- not being large headed and opinionated.
Women it seems that as soon as she gets the
ring, she starts acting like she owns the man. Woe unto her he says though
because these days he does not need to beg your permission or resort to short
changing himself for you to do what you need to do.
he has to do is just find someone else-another wife- to do what he wants
because it is within his right. First, to teach you a lesson and second, so
that he can keep you in line.
To all this he adds a story. Him: A friend
of mine has a wife and so it got to a point the wife starts misbehaving
forgetting that the guy is the one that pays for everything. What did my friend
do? He went and got himself a mistress all to the knowledge of his wife and she
started creating issues. He refused to pay her rent.
I asked him about the kids and whether any
sane man would let his kids suffer.
Him: He took them and what do you know? The
wife came back grovelling and she had to accept the other woman as well. These
days she has stopped bringing her issues because she knows the moment she does,
then the other woman is available to the man. She is the one that even has to
beg the guy to come see her.
At this point do you know, that in Kenya
marriage means nothing? Realistically think about it by the way. Marriage has
literally lost meaning in most if not all homes and for those who are approaching
it, it is not because they want to follow its moral code but because they are
already planning on the many ways they have a plan A and plan B or C.
I am not even sure of how to look at this
story because it is not a matter of couples trying to work it out or approach
issues like civilized people but to do what you want as long as you are
Wives, just because you do not know does
not mean that your husband is not being shady. I am not sure whether to tell
you to bother looking, asking or finding out because a man is going to do what
he wants to do either way.
I am not sure whether to tell you to grovel
because at the end of the day, once a man sets his mind to do something; no
matter what you do, he will still do it.
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