If they say they don’t have time, they do not want you
30 June 2016, 21:11
Nairobi - My friend was asking advice for a friend of
his. There is this woman he really likes and he has been thinking about her too
All he wants if you ask him at this moment is this particular lady. Thing
is, this lady has told him that she is not ready for anything in the name of a
relationship at the moment. So my friend asks me what he should do.
When a man asks you such a question it is
clear he wants you to tell him to buy flowers, be more attentive and don’t stop
leering at your phone until her texts pop up as a reply to yours.
That is what he wanted to hear and I knew
that I would be wasting some man’s time by giving him such stupid advice. This
is advice that only work when a woman is already yours, you are just doing
those to heighten your chances.
His case is one which the woman is just
looking for a nice way to tell him she does not want him. When they tell you
that if someone wants you, they will make time; it also applies in this case
this way; people are always ready for a relationship with someone that they
truly want. No matter if they have too much on their plate in terms of work or
career, they will tell you that is what is going on but if you can put up with
it, they are willing to work on it with you. But as long as someone tells you
they don’t want anything and they are single, it is not you they want.
It is that simple. So I told him to tell
his friend to just pull back and leave her alone. He should focus his energies
on something else. He will be wasting his time and finances if he chooses to
chase after her. She might be available for a date; but people go to dates
these days for free food and not for your enjoyable company. I said, she will
end up using him and the moment she finally gets the man she wants, he would be
old news. That is how it works and it has always worked that way.
Most of us choose the path of sticking
around and do whatever we can to convince another person that we are meant to
be the one for them. My advice is you will end up with nothing. Even if they
are with you, they are just around looking for what they consider what they
deserve and you are not it.
Stay away form people that make you feel
like you are not good enough and relationships that develop from such usually
are not fulfilling. You spend the entire time chasing someone who is not worth
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