I want to date an 'ugly' man
06 May 2016, 19:31
Nairobi - I did not want to call someone ugly. I think that people
just need some polishing here and there and what you might have thought was not
beautiful is beautiful.
But back to my story; I was getting tips on why a guy might
not want to contact you after dating you and then it clicked in my head why I
like not-so -good looking men. My mother
still finds it ludicrous that I do not want to marry a handsome man.
I have my reasons but to mention it basically, I do not like
unnecessary stress. A man who is handsome and knows it, he will just sumbua you.
In dating, the type of man you want is the one that is very
shy, will not approach you and will probably die if you even sneeze in his
direction-the one that is not standing out. Not-so good looking men will most
of the time find it very intimidating to ask you out, especially if you are a
beautiful woman. There is this
assumption that most of us beautiful women would only date that handsome guy
who everyone wants at the office. No we don’t. We like being pretty so we do
not want someone to give us grey hair because he is the ‘it’ thing.
We want someone that will appreciate us the right way and
respect us the way we need to be respected. That is why to most of you, you are
looking at that lovely lady and you are wondering what she is doing with ‘that’
man-that is not her type. You don’t need to understand it but it just means
that she is being smart or was smart and knows what it means when a man
worships the ground you walk on. Not in a bad way because some of you like
being angry about everything someone says.
This man will never treat you badly because he knows you had
other options but you chose to single him out and find out he was about.
These handsome men that everyone wants will not date you
properly. He will have a one minute attention span because now it is on that
skirt, next that dress, next he likes her hair and because they all want him,
that is why he is taking five working days to reply your text or get back to
you. If you even ask him to properly pursue you like a woman that is serious
about a relationship needs to be pursued; this man will not do that for you. He
is in a candy store-literally.
If you have an issue and maybe be mad like you know, the way
us women do so that he comes around and talks to you about it, this guy will
just be like, ‘I do not need to be here for this.’ Because he knows that as
soon as he drops you, there is someone waiting for him. Probably was there all
through the relationship. Most of them do not know how to be in a relationship
because they have learnt that as long as they have a face they can have as many
as they want and the women will not min. Some will even share. Do you want
Choose the not-so-good looking man and polish him yourself.
He might not know how to pick an outfit but that is your job; get a haircut
that suits him and your job is done. If he is kind, loves you, wants to take
care of you and be there for you-what more do you want?
Stop fighting for a position where everyone is put on the
same pedestal that the man does not even have time to appreciate you. Look for
that one who gets no time from any woman at all and be smart-get yourself the
right husband who will remember to call you after a date; will always be
planning his next date with you that you do not have to beg for his time. He
will be planning your proposal because he knows he is lucky to have you not the
one you have to beg and question whether you are even in a relationship with. Look
for someone who cannot wait to be a good husband to you and be happy to see you
age. Get you an ugly man.
I bet you are wondering if I have ever dated one. I have
been very unlucky. I can’t seem to pin down one ugly man and make him my man. I
just get this other ones. Most of them doubt my intentions from the beginning
and think I am planning something-so most of the time they think am setting
them up. So if you are an ugly man, stop having no confidence and approach us;
most of the time you are ignoring someone and assuming that just because they
look a certain way, they must be in a relationship. No we are not, we are
single and not all of us want to end up with handsome men.
If she approaches you, do not doubt her. Maybe she likes
that you are kind and shy, not all of us want pompous jerks that are loud in a
room. You do not have to talk about your money and what you have because some
people just like getting to know people. You can come across the wrong way
trying to make an impression to make someone stay.
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