How to overcome the challenges of age gap relationships
04 October 2016, 13:07
Men have always wanted to date younger women for various reasons, though modern women are also going for younger men. Though there is an acceptable age gap across all cultures, age gap relationships are also rampant. In case you are dating someone younger or older than 5 years, you have to learn how to overcome the challenges and enjoy your relationship.
The following are some of the tips to overcome these challenges:
Exercise some patience
When your partner does things that you do not approve of, take your time to understand them. Learn why they are doing so, and let them know that you are not happy. Engage them into dialogue and discuss the problem. If it is something beyond your control, learn to live with it but be patient. Never solve age gap relationship issues through violence as this may cost you the love of your life.
Accommodation is among the most effective conflict management strategies. Learn to compromise some of your pleasures and habits in order to accommodate your partner. Accommodate their insecurities, their fears, their doubts, their weaknesses and their immaturity. Let love be the only factor that comes between you two, but understand that conflict is part of human existence.
Make the gap acceptable
You need to be realistic while choosing your partner. Sometimes it is good to consider what the society expects of you while making a marriage decision in order to avoid problems. This is the society you are going to live in for the rest of your life, and so you need to avoid age gap relationships that are not acceptable by the society. A gap of five years is acceptable; if it is wider, do not exceed 15 if you are a man. Being realistic also means that you are able to deal with the consequences. A man who is 20 years, for instance, and wants to have his own children should consider getting married to a woman who is less than 35, the average menopause age.
Do not discuss your partner with others
It has been said time and again that a relationship is for two. Do not let third parties spoil your relationship. Very few people know your age and the age of your partner, unless you tell them. In fact, most people will never know how old your partner is until you confide in them. This is hazardous in long lasting relationships, since people will discourage you from keeping the relationship.
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