How to know the both of you are actually ready for a child
29 June 2016, 19:50
Nairobi - Children are rarely if ever planned. They
come and they do not come with plates. They come naked waiting for you to get
up from that bed to clothe them. Most couples get surprised because most of the
time when you plan it rarely if ever happens.
That does not mean you cannot take the
necessary measures to ensure that you do not struggle so much when they come.
How do you know as a couple that you are ready for a child?
I will first stress;
Your financial situation is better as compared to when the both of you first
Realistically most couples meet up when
they are still trying to figure their own lives out. This is when I will advise
you not to have a child yet; figure yourself out first then bring another human
being into it. Second, a child=money;
honestly. You will need money, money and money- for basic every day care and
for those funny emergencies. My mother is afraid of babies because to her, half
the time she never understood what was happening. The child sleeps fine the
following morning they have a break out and you have to rush them to the
hospital. So, money; the both of you are financially stable and responsible.
are more so becoming homebodies and less of party animals
I am not saying parents don’t have fun and
kids bring your life to a standstill; actually, they do but we are going to
pretend they don’t. If as a mother, you are not ready to quit partying even for
the first year, you are in trouble. That tag of war that happens between
couples because we are now taking turns deciding who gets to go out this
weekend; you are not ready for parenting. Partying and parenting are not in the
you are not patient with each other don’t have a child
Your baby will annoy you. Yes, we love them
and we like them but trust me; your child will not let you sleep a full night.
Either way, you still have to check on them to ensure they don’t roll on their
stomach at night. They die. If you do not have patience with your partner, use
them to train yourself at it and be a team. That way, the work will not be life
to one person after the birth.
of you actually want one
Not the set up. It cannot be one-sided.
That normally ends badly.
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