How to deal with a lazy guy
06 July 2016, 09:39
The worst trait in relationship after selfishness is laziness. This is the guy who is always in between jobs, cannot get up before 10 o’clock from bed, so never has enough money to take you out and always complains of how the cost of living has gone up.
A lady may tolerate him for the first few dates because he is funny and well acquainted with what is going on in the city and small talk but soon she gets wary of him. He is always late for appointments, dresses shabbily and never in a hurry with life. His laid back attitude worries everyone apart from himself.
He settles very fast in the relationship and is always at the lady's office to pick her in the evening and on weekends he asks for some money and her car to meet some “investors" in an off town resort. These happen to be small girls whom he wants to impress.
It is tiring and challenging to have someone like that in a relationship. The man is not adding value but instead draining you emotionally and financially. The easiest thing to do is to drop him like a hot potato and just forget him like a bad dream. On the other hand, you may try to understand what really is the problem with him.
If you pray and are patient to seek for wisdom, you may just help him out even if you don't marry him; you would have helped another family or a generation to come. This is so because these lazy people are normally very intelligent and gifted people who lacked mentorship or thought that they were smart enough to get away with working smart and not hard.
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Sometimes God allows us to meet people and help them instead of judging and discarding them. The following tips can help you aid them in life:
1. Love them. People don’t care about what you know until they see how much you care. Instead of judging and condemning them, love them the way you would your own kids and try to understand them. When they see that you love them and genuinely concerned about their plight, they will open up and share their struggles with you. Everyone is made in the image of God and the devil comes to distort that image by giving us negative attributes that dampen our greatness. When his candle is off you can light it by loving him and speaking greatness in him.
2. Believe in them. Many have had a poor upbringing, been criticized by teachers, parents and fellow students when they failed in their attempt at doing something and therefore given up. They want someone who can believe in them and to be cheered on.
3. Get to know their passion and encourage them to pursue it. Everyone has a purpose they were born to do. When they discover it, their life lightens up and new energy is injected in them, when you listen to your friend or husband and discover what is it, encourage him even if it means partnering with him financially. When he has a reason to live, he will be up early in the morning and ready to conquer the world. Laziness is just a lack of enthusiasm caused by poor self-image and undefined goals or no well charted out plan at attaining them. Everyone can be motivated, try throwing a rubber snake at them and see their reaction.
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