How to get your ex back
18 October 2016, 09:06
Getting your ex back depends on how you were living while you were together, and the duration you took to make that initial step to bring her back home. The following tips can be helpful:
Stick around but do not act desperate
Make sure you are present in her mind and life by maintaining contact. Remember that the best time to go after your ex is immediately after the separation. Do not wait for three months to start pursuing her. Give her a break of say a week, and then visit, call or email her. However, you need to learn that too many calls, excessive emails, excessive contact makes you to look desperate - avoid any desperate act.
Maintain the one item or accessory that bonds you together
Never remove your wedding ring, destroy her photos or give anything she left behind to other people. Make sure that she is on your mind, and focus on what she loves most. Ensure that nothing you do hurts her self esteem or the trust she has in you. It is easier to mend a wounded heart than to heal a wounded soul.
Show her your love and compliment her efforts
Breaking off the chain will make you feel guilty especially if she does not come back. However, showing feelings of love and affection is one of the best strategies to win back the heart of your ex wife. Women like to be pampered with gifts, so make use this to bring her back home. Show her that her presence added value to the home, and how cold and lifeless the place is when she is not around. Let her know that her presence is appreciated, and that without her there is no home. Women love compliments, and anything that boosts their self esteem will always receive a warm reception.
Avoid new relationships
New relationships will ruin your efforts to get your ex wife back. Women have a very strong intuition and starting a new relationship while still pleading with her to come back will fall into deaf ears. It shows lack of respect for the person who matters most to you. Even if you are seeing other women, keep them out of sight because they will interfere with the trust you are already building in order to win her heart once again.
Arguments ruin relationships, and there is no way you are going to take her back home by starting one. Even if she was the one on the wrong, listen to her but do not start a fight. Avoid finding faults in her if you were the one on the wrong. Just admit guilt and apologize. A simple statement such as 'I am sorry' can make great difference in your life. Let her know that you sincerely want to take her back, and tell her the truth regarding your plans for her. If there was a loose end before she left, ensure that you tighten it before asking her to come back.
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