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How to behave when you meet your ex

18 April 2016, 22:48 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - As a person with common sense, you will think that there is no need for such advice. Normal people know that when a relationship ends and you both move on (hopefully amicably) the normal thing to do is act like you have never met the other person before. Is that mature? Yes, it is!

Why do we have to be so dramatic and pretend that we are all going to be happy and cheerful that the other person moved on so fast or seems to be enjoying themselves more? It does not mean that you care, what it means is that you are a normal human being that hopes your ex is miserable without you. Even if you have ten exes, you wish that each one of them looks back and wishes they had never let you go. Stupid but true; even though you are the one that probably messed up.

What you do not do as an ex

I have never understood what some people gain by this but

Keeping in touch with their family

Why? You have goodwill from them, they like you, they are good to you but it did not work out. Why do you stay in touch? How does it help you because it sure does not help you move on; calling them, attending their functions, attending their events and the very worst cases: gossiping about their new item? You make it so uncomfortable for someone to be around their own family when you have your own.

How does it help you to know how wrong they are and how the family dislikes them. Trust me, any person comfortable talking about other people with you, will be comfortable talking about you with them. In the long run, your ex will probably end up with their new item long –run while you hang around hoping for more. Move on.

How to act when you meet your replacement

Don’t make things awkward

This is why you don’t date in close quarters; when you break ties, you totally destroy those ties. But some of you date colleagues and partners and friends to your own family-so you meet up, eventually! Shake hands-that is it; both of their hands, so that you do not look like you are bitter. Shake hands and smile and say how it is your pleasure to meet them.

Have adult conversation

Most adults are actually children in grown people outfits. So you want to be spiteful by isolating the conversation after you crush an event that you are actually not meant to be in. You want to talk about that time you went some place and had fun that the new beau will not be able to put two and two together. You look desperate and stupid and make it uncomfortable for people who are actually meant to be there. You will force them to force their family to disinvite you. Talk about the weather; ask about their work, and what they do and smile, then move sits to neutral ground. Don’t do desperate things like forcing yourself on people of the opposite sex to show your ex that you are having a good time. You re-affirm to them the reason why they chose to move on without you, even if you are the one that ended it.

You do not have to lie

You don’t have to lie, how you moved on and you are now with someone new. That is none of their business but if you feel the need to or find yourself in a place where you have to talk about yourself. Just say that you decide to focus on work or you are not in a hurry. Putting up a front is the reason why a lot of ex’s end up rushing decisions in the form of rebounds with wrong people and irreversible consequences.

You do not need all that. Just be honest,’ I am still single. No, I have not found someone else. I am taking my time because that is what I want to do.’

It is okay to check them out and measure them on a scale

Self-righteous people will tell you they have never done it but trust me, most people do it. You want to see if you are better or not but don’t be that person that points it out or comments on things you should not. You are not their business and they are not yours-move on!

Don’t be paranoid

No, they are not talking about you and if they are, what are you going to do about it? Nothing! That moment after you walk away or they do and you see one whisper to the other, maybe they are just asking if they should use this street or the other one.  Just move on.

Don’t call or text the ex

As much as people delete numbers, we all still have them crammed in our heads. That is just how it is. You do not go get drunk and write them long poems and call them. Just move on and write them off in your head. Chances are the new boo expects you to do it and they are both waiting for you to do it. Your ex will show them the message or they will listen to the call together. That is just human nature. For someone to posture and show how they are the best thing to have happened to you so that the new person knows what gift they have. Don’t give them that satisfaction. Move on.

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