How marriages get in a rut
10 October 2016, 11:52
Maybe you are wondering what happened to the honeymoon spark and the marriage bliss you vowed to hold on to. If you have started feeling like a stranger in your own house, then it is time to review your marriage. Many people are afraid of getting married because of the rate at which marriages are failing. The question is, what is killing marriages today? The following are some of the factors that lead to failed unions:
1. Broken marriage vows
On the wedding day, you promised to love your partner and only her. A few years after the honey moon, majority of people tend to break this vow. If you have gotten to the point where you feel like your needs are not being met, then your union is heading south. The feeling that your current partner is not the ideal partner often leads to broken vows and failed marriages.
2. Avoidance of responsibility
Marriage comes with responsibilities. If you rushed your marriage or your partner was not ready for marriage, then chances are high that your marriage will not last. A person who is not ready to take care of his or her partner and family cannot sustain a marriage.
3. Unwillingness to leave old habits
Once people get married, they begin a new life different from the one they were living before. Marriage life is very different from single life, but most people find the transition period a difficult and trying time. Your partner will be offended if you do not leave your old girly or boyish habits. If you are spending most of your time with peers instead of your family, then be sure that your marriage will soon get in a rut.
4. Strange habits
Most people hide their ugly side during the dating period. However, you cannot hide your true identity forever, and some of your bad habits will keep showing their ugly face. This comes as a shocker, and it is such a time that your partner is likely to say that you have changed. Selfishness, bullying, dishonesty, cheating and poor hygiene are some of the bad habits that people hide till marriage, and some of the greatest marriage killers.
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