How friends will influence the type of relationship you land up with
31 May 2016, 17:07
Nairobi - I have a friend but she has another group
of friends but here is the deal. I think she does not want to be with her
current boyfriend because she is more concerned about how they feel about him.
had not talked to her in a while but when we met I sensed the reserve about the
The man thinks they have a relationship, little does he know
she is trying to convince herself she is already bored. So I meet the guy and
he is great but you can just tell she is already coming up with excuses as to why
she does not want anything to do with him.
All her friends are in relationships by the
way but I think they would appreciate it more if she chose someone according to
what they like and not what she wants or likes. So I am here trying to convince
my friend not to be stupid but it is headed in that direction.
Why would you choose a relationship based
on what your friends want and not what you want? Women, we do really have
problems and they are the ones that we create by ourselves.
You want to please your friends more than
you would like to please yourself. You want them to be comfortable when you
bring someone around them yet that person might not even be your type. If they
say we all like bad boys, and you
don’t, you rush off to get one and forget the frustration that is coming with
You want to have a boyfriend or man that
will be able to blend in with your friends so that there is no uncomfortable
silence when you bring him around. Otherwise, the other option is not to
include him in anything. I think that is the predicament my friend is in; her
and her group like certain things while the new man is in the other hemisphere
when it comes to enjoying himself.
He was explaining to me how he took her out
of town for a trip just the two of them and she spent the whole time
complaining because that is not what they do. She has a comfort zone and if he
wants to continue sticking around, he better adjust to it.
Choose a man that you know pleases you.
Good friends will adjust to what makes you happy. Bad friends will make you
feel bad about it and frustrate you. They will be there to console you but what
for? Isn’t it just better if they do not need to console you in the first
And that is how you end up with a bad
experience or bad marriage you could have avoided if you had just done what you
want and not what others want. My friend is putting this guy at an arm’s length
and he does not even know it. He thinks they are building but she has other
plans of her own.
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