How do you ask the person you are married to, to get checked?
14 September 2016, 22:05
Nairobi - As much as it is hard for people that are
dating to bring up the subject; there is a certain confidence in a person that
you feel when they bring up the subject as they get into a relationship with
Who would not want to be with a partner
that is that careful?
Some people do get offended but when you
think about it realistically, you want a person that tells you, ‘Let us go get
But what about married couples?
That is tricky- very tricky.
- If they had not been doing
anything shady behind you, they now think you are; yet you wanted to get tested
on assumption and keep being safe.
- It tells someone one of you is
cheating and it might be none actually is
- From then on, there will be
mistrust. All the way
I think married couples should have a 6
month if not yearly review of their status. Most marriages do not mean anything
at the moment and so you will think, they are as faithful as I am being. Then
one day someone comes and tells you they have given you something- something
incurable in a worst case scenario! What will you do then?
There is no good way of telling your
partner you want to be checked.
So it is two ways: 1. you keep quiet and
just home they are not doing anything that might end up hurting you. Very risky
or 2. You ask that you go for a check-up and that ruins your marriage but at
least now you will be safe.
The only time you can approach this subject
without any fear or backlash is if your partner is a cheater and you keep taking
If they cheat once, and you consider a
reconciliation, get tested. If they keep cheating, you have the right to demand
for a check-up any time you want as long as they can’t be faithful and you
choose to be with them for your own reasons.
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