Hiding from men like...
30 August 2016, 19:30
Nairobi - Yesterday after a gruesome day I met a friend on my way back home.
She explains where she is going and that location sounds too familiar. So I ask, the particulars of other boarders to the said location and it confirms my suspicion. I tell her to not say that she even met me on the way; to just act like she got delayed by something else.
There is this man I am avoiding. You see the problem with some men is that these other women they come across have been babying them for such a long while they think the rest of us ladies are here for it. The last conversation I had with him I just gave him a few home truths about himself and why I would never date him he got all temperamental like I needed to start grovelling for his benevolent gestures.
Grovelling is not so hard for me, I can be feminine and forget my metal panties when it is the RIGHT man. What do right men do? This man had never taken me on a date that I felt like I needed to trap him or made any sweet gestures, or bought me a present. The whole time of our conversation, he had acted like he was not bothered for anything more so I made it known that I would never date him and he gets mad. Now he is mad that I am not trying to get back to his good graces; which good graces? None the last time I checked. He met the wrong one.
So I am hiding from him. He is not the only one. I am so lucky I get home when it is dark and leave when it is dark. There is this one I have to duck the minute I alight at the stage. He drives a motorbike (nduthi). He confessed his love. My mother was even worried. She told me to get out of the house more and start meeting the right people.
If my self- esteem was not this high I would really be wondering about my looks because of the people I at times attract. The other day it was a houseboy, my friend even asked me if I walked around looking like the help and there was this one time…okay many times…I have left the house in my pyjamas and ugly stocking. I looked cute though but it must have contributed to these people feeling too familiar.
There is this one that comes in and ….get this, peeps in my bag. He peeped inside a lady’s bag and asked me of its contents. It was a cookbook I had carried to read while in traffic and goes on to tell me (in Swahili)… ‘Hahahaha, oh that is a cook book. One day you should cook something I come over and eat.’ First my FBI skills are telling me he is definitely married and second, that pick up line. Lord Jesus! I was not even offended because I figured he just could not come up with anything else but interest cannot get lost in such a translation. So I just gave him my winning smile and chuckled so that he does not create a conversation from there about him coming over. See ladies, I did not even have to be rude, I just wore my blank smile.
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