He wants sex on the first date
18 July 2016, 17:46
Nairobi - I am thinking we should all come together
and agree that for a particular period of time, I am thinking months to a year
or two, we all stay away from anything that starts with the word r and ends
with p- relationship!
Everyone should just mind their business,
we can be social, yes, but no one trying to date anyone. Help us clear our
minds a bit on what we all really want. Maybe re-specify the gender rules and
roles because we have all gotten them mixed up and confused.
Now the other day, this man had just spent
on this lady and after all that, he was expecting some from her (by some you
know I mean sex, right?). She was not having it because I mean, it is the first
date. A lady who respects herself does not give ‘it’ up on the first date. One
would think, this man would have been like, ‘She is a keeper, at least she does
just let anything and everything pass through.’
But no, he was irritated, he had done all
these for her and he was expecting some in return.
Not so gentlemanly, some women and a few
men would say.
Then again, there is this new rule, if we
are dating; if the man is not having any sex from her, then she should not get
any trinkets and treats from him. Fair all round! So basically, this is where
feminism comes in- we are all equal and thus, I pay my way, just as he does
his. So fifty-fifty; but wait, there is a catch. If he does not offer, he is an
asshole. So he should offer so that we can both beat around the bush about the
bill. If he lets me pay, he is also a douche because, ‘I would never date a man
who lets me pay on my first date.
So wait, the guy must ask, and we will
quibble, I will offer to pay but if he lets me pay, he loses. If I am a true
feminist, if he asks if I want to split the bill but he forces me not to pay,
it offends me.
Oh, God. I am also confused.
Now to the men.
If I take her out and I pay for everything,
expect something in return. A peck? Heck no, I did not pay for that awesome
dinner, and all those treats for a peck. I want the goods.
But shouldn’t she respect herself?
The man: ‘I am not sure (being confused as
usual). I just want something in return.’
‘But if she has sex with me on the first
date, she is a loose woman and I would never take her seriously.’
‘Aren’t you both adults? Isn’t it about
maturity and the both of you doing something that comes naturally?’
‘I don’t know what that means just that I
will not respect her if she gives it up too soon. I need the chase but if I am
not getting any then there is no reason for her to be taken on a date unless we
are taking a walk in the CBD. Keeping it cash free.’
‘What if she offers to pay her part of the
‘A woman who starts making such demands
even before we date is not my type. She will want to sit on my head. I am the
man, so I am the provider.’
See why I think we all need a break? No one
no longer knows what they want or expect. Running around like the chicken with
no heads. We all just need a break from dating and relationships. We need
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