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He wants sex on the first date

18 July 2016, 17:46 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - I am thinking we should all come together and agree that for a particular period of time, I am thinking months to a year or two, we all stay away from anything that starts with the word r and ends with p- relationship!

Everyone should just mind their business, we can be social, yes, but no one trying to date anyone. Help us clear our minds a bit on what we all really want. Maybe re-specify the gender rules and roles because we have all gotten them mixed up and confused.

Now the other day, this man had just spent on this lady and after all that, he was expecting some from her (by some you know I mean sex, right?). She was not having it because I mean, it is the first date. A lady who respects herself does not give ‘it’ up on the first date. One would think, this man would have been like, ‘She is a keeper, at least she does just let anything and everything pass through.’

But no, he was irritated, he had done all these for her and he was expecting some in return.

Not so gentlemanly, some women and a few men would say.

Then again, there is this new rule, if we are dating; if the man is not having any sex from her, then she should not get any trinkets and treats from him. Fair all round! So basically, this is where feminism comes in- we are all equal and thus, I pay my way, just as he does his. So fifty-fifty; but wait, there is a catch. If he does not offer, he is an asshole. So he should offer so that we can both beat around the bush about the bill. If he lets me pay, he is also a douche because, ‘I would never date a man who lets me pay on my first date.

So wait, the guy must ask, and we will quibble, I will offer to pay but if he lets me pay, he loses. If I am a true feminist, if he asks if I want to split the bill but he forces me not to pay, it offends me.

Oh, God. I am also confused.

Now to the men.

If I take her out and I pay for everything, expect something in return. A peck? Heck no, I did not pay for that awesome dinner, and all those treats for a peck. I want the goods.

But shouldn’t she respect herself?

The man: ‘I am not sure (being confused as usual). I just want something in return.’

‘But if she has sex with me on the first date, she is a loose woman and I would never take her seriously.’

‘Aren’t you both adults? Isn’t it about maturity and the both of you doing something that comes naturally?’

‘I don’t know what that means just that I will not respect her if she gives it up too soon. I need the chase but if I am not getting any then there is no reason for her to be taken on a date unless we are taking a walk in the CBD. Keeping it cash free.’

‘What if she offers to pay her part of the bill?’

‘A woman who starts making such demands even before we date is not my type. She will want to sit on my head. I am the man, so I am the provider.’

See why I think we all need a break? No one no longer knows what they want or expect. Running around like the chicken with no heads. We all just need a break from dating and relationships. We need clearer heads.

- MyNews24

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