He wants me back but....
18 April 2016, 22:48
Nairobi - You have probably heard this one, ‘If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it means it was meant for you. It is yours, take it back.’
What you have never read is this one, ‘If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you again, set it free again because it never found someone to love them as you did.’
How many can relate to the second one? Damn sure more people than would admit especially if they are the ones that were being set free.
Not many people can admit that they have been in more relationships than they would care to count but you eventually choose or chose to settle down with someone. Something about them just made you realize that you are done. Or something about them just made you realize you should pay rent for one house instead of two houses. Whichever Kenyan side of the blanket you all choose to fall from.
Thing is, you can keep getting confused whenever an ex or other parent of your child keeps popping up when you move on. You will ask yourself whether you are making the wrong decision about them. Maybe they really love you more than they let on. What if they have changed and you should give them a chance?
You quickly forget about the person that you are with now for whatever reason.
A person outside looking in will always want to come in to figure out how good things are in there before they bail out again. Most spouses and partners who gave up on your relationship because they thought you were too much or were not willing to put in the hard work will want to move back in when they see the results of someone else’s hard work pay off.
Such people do not understand the meaning of give and take but take, take, and do some more taking. You have a new partner, they are giving 80% and you are giving the regular 30% and if you are trying really hard 40%. Your former spouse sees you being happy with your new family or partner and it gets to them because they still have not moved on. They have not found any lack with their string of partners. What do you think they will do?
They will come back in and sell you a lie. ‘I have changed.’ ‘I have become a better person.’ ‘I want to try this again with you.’ ‘I do not mind being a co-wife/side chick.’
You will take the bait and if you are not married, leave whatever you have now because you are thinking that now, you two can do better. You are not asking yourself the reasons for their coming back or whatever else they are coming back with or their intentions. You break up whatever you have now because you buy into their words until they disappoint you.
Some people never really change you know. At times, love lost can be the best thing to happen to you until it comes back and sells you a false dream.
Do not buy it, at times when you set something free, let it keep roaming until it finds its new home. You don’t want something to catch rabies and introduce you to tetanus shots. Remember that!
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