He got married just after we broke up
08 March 2016, 19:58
Nairobi - You break up with a man and barely a year has passed and he
is already married. What is the message behind that? Were you not good enough?
The reason I always tell women not to wait on men is such as
the case above. The reason I tell women to get into a man’s face is also
because of the reason above. Not because I am a quarrelsome person or I like
being in someone’s business but because as a woman who has been brought up in
an African society that has never killed polygamy-you will always need to know
where you stand where a man is concerned.
Always! There is no what if or excuse that you will make up
to excuse someone from wasting your time. The worst part is when you realize it
too late and you see him going off quickly with someone else. That only means
one thing-you were never the only one in that relationship.
Is he saying that you
were not patient enough?
Trust me my dear, what you did was just escape a triangle of
a situation. He was never going to make a decision as long as the two of you
made yourselves available to him. He just realized that he now had to close the
deal before the other one also found out because what he fed you, he also fed
Does it mean that you
were not good enough?
What it just means is that the man was never yours. Do not
overthink it and start tearing yourself part to figure out the fault. Obviously
you will find many especially if you see the other one. Not tall enough or too short. Not earning the right amount or
not homely enough. It is always something. If a man does not put all his
efforts on you then that just means he was not yours and he did not think you
were all that for him. That is why he kept his options open. You do not want to
deal with such if he ever comes back and tells you he made a mistake. There was
no mistake, take the failure and turn it into a lesson to avoid him.
The moment you let him back in, you will just have messed up
How come you were that
stupid never to have seen it?
If a man wants to hide something; he will. It is just a
matter of him considering what is worth his efforts in hiding. Trust is an
important thing in a relationship; but when you choose to trust the wrong
people or someone your intuition is crying against; you have no one else to
blame than yourself.
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