He gave me a small engagement ring
20 April 2016, 18:40
Nairobi - If the size of the ring is what you are moistly worried
about then you really are not ready for marriage. You should not be preparing
for a wedding. Most old school couples you see have probably only one band on
their finger. So where did the other fancy wedding band go to? It was probably
never there because there was nothing like engagement and drawn out proposals.
It was you liked a girl, and before you proposed to her, saw her father, paid
dowry, do wedding and voila! You are married. With a simple band and that was
Today’s marriages start on such a horrible note and that is
probably why they never last. Someone likes you but because they know what you
expect they even surpass proposing to you. They settle for a completely
different person because of the impressions you give from the get go.
They see you browsing some really ludicrous rings and
writing poems on ‘dear future husband,…’ That ring is obviously not what the
person earns and even if they came to some legal terms, it is like paying off a
loan for a house. Who wants to start a family on such a tone? Not most,
It is all very nice to hope and dream but some of you people
who are hoping to even set foot on the altar should tone down your expectations
when talking to your beaus on what you expect or want from them. Men just have
a change of heart about you, not even from anything you do but your
expectations on the things that do not really matter.
A ring is pretty but try walking with anything above two
carats in the CBD. So why force having something that you cannot even enjoy
wearing on daily basis. If they can afford more for you, then that is not such
a bad thing but if they cannot, then you chose them, you also chose the life
they are able and willing to give you. That is what a lot of young ladies need
to remember when they choose to settle down with someone.
If someone goes out of their way to make a proposal
memorable for you, forget the size of the ring. Your mother probably never even
saw one and will probably be seeing the first one on your finger-as long as you
do not mess it up. Some of you miss out on good relationships and marriages not
because the man was not good but because of the expectations you place on the
really fickle and small stuff.
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