Guys I date vs. Guys I marry
21 September 2016, 16:11
Nairobi - I have a funny friend. As I was narrating
my woes with certain men in my life she started regaling me with tales of her
friend which made mine seem like child’s play. She was really enjoying herself
while laughing at our predicaments.
I was telling her how I have to sneak into
work because of some ‘love’ interest in the name of a security guard who is
always waiting for me.
You see, men always think they are very
clever. They assume that just because they have a ‘wife’ material standard we
do not have a ‘husband’ material standard.
Have you ever looked at a woman and the man
she finally ends up with is a complete opposite of the men she normally deals
with. Nothing similar to them at all. It is because we also get ‘serious’ when
it comes to that point in life.
The fun guy whom she will go to road trips
with, who wastes money spending every weekend is the man she will date. If he
asks her to be a wife, trust me, she will do a double take because she will be
thinking of the responsibilities that come with marriage. Can he handle that? I
see you drinking everyday on Instagram and I am just like, you might be fun for
the weekend but marriage…yikes! First because of all that money and later the
liver/ health problems you will develop long term. Why do I care because now I
will be a wife and have to also deal with those issues.
That is not to say she wants to marry
someone too serious
will marry her friend
This is where she might end up picking that
guy who has been a friend all along. It is good to marry someone who
understands you and has known you for a long time. Handling marriage’s ups and
downs is better when you are doing it with someone that is your friend.
will marry the safe and secure type
For the smarter women that is that look for
more out of a husband other than looks. That is why most people suffer a
shocker when they see a woman end up with a guy that is not her type. He might
not be her type but women like security. They also look for a man who looks
like one to make it work and actually wants to. This is where a woman will
easily move on from a man she has dated for five years yet he does not want to
settle down and quickly marry the next man. A man who looks like he has his
priorities in line. There is one that comes to my mind when I think about this.
If I had an ‘oops’ moment; I would not be so worried.
But then there are these other men you take
ten plan Bs to make sure nothing is a product of that association.
As compared to men who look for trophy
wives, women are a bit more sceptical and more goes into it. Looks might not
even have anything to do with it.
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