Five benefits of heterosexual monogamous marriage
04 July 2016, 08:37
There are tremendous benefits and advantages of heterosexual and monogamous marriage. The marriage institution is under assault in this generation like no other. This is more so in developed world and the cities in third world where there is moral decadence, dual income marriages and pressures of modern life.
The National Marriage Coalition (NMC) in Australia believes that there needs to be a massive increase in government funding to support and strengthen Australian marriages. Thus marriage needs the full support of government at every stage and every level including premarital counseling, marriage education, marriage enrichment and pre-divorce counseling.
Following are some benefits of marriage:
1. Marriage enhances good relationships between fathers and their children. With the demise of the marriage comes the separation of the close bond of father and children. The mother invariably takes custody and tries to frustrate the relationship of the father and children using emotional stone walling (e.g. bad mouthing the father to the children), legal (seeking for full custody and placing restraining orders among other conditions to the father) or geographical method (eg moving to another town or state and playing the passive aggressor to the hilt).
65 percent of young adults whose parents divorced had poor relationships with their fathers (compared to 29 percent from non-divorced families). On average, children whose parents divorce or never marry see their fathers less frequently and have less affectionate relationships with their fathers than do children whose parents got and stayed married. Divorce appears to have an even greater negative effect on relationships between fathers and their children than remaining in an unhappy marriage.
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2. Growing up outside an intact marriage increases the likelihood that children will themselves divorce or become unwed parents. Children whose parents divorce or fail to marry are more likely to become young unwed parents, to divorce themselves, and to have unhappy marriages and/or relationships. Daughters raised outside of intact marriages are approximately three times more likely to end up young unwed mothers than are children whose parents married and stayed married. Parental divorce approximately doubles the odds that adult children will also divorce. Divorce is apparently most likely to be transmitted across the generations when parents in relatively low-conflict marriages divorced.
3. Married couples seem to build more wealth on average than singles. Marriage seems to be a wealth-creating institution. Married couples build more wealth on average than do otherwise similar singles or cohabiting couples, even after controlling for income. The economic advantages of marriage stem from more than just access to two incomes. Marriage partners appear to build more wealth for some of the same reasons that partnerships in general are economically efficient, including economies of scale and specialization and exchange. Marital social norms that encourage healthy, productive behaviour and wealth accumulation (such as buying a home) also appear to play a role. Married parents also more often receive wealth transfers from both sets of grandparents than do cohabiting couples; single mothers almost never receive financial help from.
4. Married men appear to have greater work commitment, lower quit rates, and healthier and more stable personal routines. A large body of research, from a number of developed countries, finds that married men earn between 10 and 40 percent more than do single men with similar education and job histories. While selection effects may account for part of the marriage premium, recent research appears to confirm that marriage itself increases the earning power of men, on the order of 15 percent.
Why do married men earn more? The causes are not entirely understood, but married men appear to have greater work commitment, lower quit rates, and healthier and more stable personal routines (including sleep, diet and alcohol consumption). Husbands also benefit from both the work effort and emotional support that they receive from wives.
5. Boys raised in single-parent families are more likely to engage in delinquent and criminal behaviour. In Australia, a recent book by Alan Tapper highlights this connection between broken families and crime. In a study of rising crime rates in Western Australia, Tapper suggests that “family breakdown in the form of divorce and separation is the main cause of the crime wave”.
A longitudinal study of 512 Australian children found that there are more offenders coming from families of cohabiting than married couples, and there are proportionally more offenders who become recidivists coming from families of cohabiting than married couples. The study concludes, “The relationship between cohabitation and delinquency is beyond contention: children of cohabiting couples are more likely to be found among offenders than children of married couples.”
Those who work with juvenile offenders in Australia confirm these findings. John Smith of Care and Communication Concern in Melbourne has spent nearly two decades working with homeless youth and young offenders. He says that “almost 100 per cent” of these kids are from “single parent families or blended families”. And a recent New Zealand study found that 64.6 per cent of juvenile offenders had no birth father present.
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