Don't force a man to love you
09 July 2016, 19:51
Love is natural. It comes from the heart and it's somehow indescribable. There is no uniformity in how people express love for one another but as a person standing from across the bridge, you can see it through actions.
However, there is a growing concern of women soliciting for that love. Perhaps, the society is pushing the woman so hard when she is assumed ripe for marriage to find a man to call her own. Loneliness is also a factor; you really need someone to talk to. There is also the need to have someone take care of your financial needs. All these combined keep a woman on her toes.
An option comes of finding a man and nurturing him to love you to meet one or all the needs. But real men of responsible character and free to love you as the heart dictates are not easy to come by. It takes some patience and some antidote of prayers.
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Nevertheless, bringing yourself to the knees of a man for his love is not just degrading yourself but it is also dehuminising. It's more fulfilling when you are in a mutual relationship; he truly loves you and you equally do.
It is depressing to keep on pushing someone to be fair to you and do things in a considerate manner when he can actually do them out of his own volition. Even if you end up together, you won't be happy. You will live in a lonely marriage beating its necessity in the first place.
Our ancestors knew it well when they said: "Marry in haste, regret at leisure." Just don't baby someone to love you. Let him do so willingly, naturally!
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