Don’t change a man’s mind. It is already taken
06 July 2016, 17:58
Nairobi - I was talking to a colleague yesterday and
he was telling me that he does not want to be married.
The first thing I thought was maybe he was a
woman hater because of the idea that woman just want you for your money, no
love or trust and they just want you for other things other than you.
second thing I thought was maybe he already had a child and now he just wanted
to close that chapter and do as much w****ing as he can.
Turns out this guy just does not want to
have children. I laughed so hard. I have never laughed so hard because he is
So you can imagine him explaining it with his accent. He told me he
just does not want any dependents. No matter how rich he eventually gets. He is
going to remain childless and wife-less.
In his exact words that he said in
Swahili but I will translate in English, ‘I just don’t want children waiting
for me at home asking me for this and that and what I should pay for; so
On the wife part, ’I just don’t want to be
getting home and some woman is staring at me judging me all the time for things
I can or cannot change. ’I could not even argue with that because I immediately
understood what he was saying.
I did not want to delve into it much but I
knew he must have had a rough upbringing because when I asked how his parents
felt about this, he said they were alright with it. I assumed it is because his
other siblings would give the parents whatever grandchildren they wanted. But
turns out the brother is of the same mind as well- just no kids.
I asked if he has a girlfriend. He said no
and I told him, it better stay that way if he wants to achieve this purpose
because that is just how things happen.
Some woman somewhere might be lying to
herself about this man. Thinking how if she just gets pregnant they can be
together. That is why I told the story. Some things go way beyond you as a
woman. You are thinking it is because he is having someone else or he is
pretending but the man made the decision way before you.
This is a situation where if a woman gets
herself in a situation, the guy might disappear or be nonchalant. Nothing to do
with you; he is just doing what he has always wanted.
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