Do you tell your friend her man is cheating?
14 October 2016, 18:34
Nairobi - The clear answer should be yes. If my man
was somewhere having some funny shenanigans and someone I know very well saw
him, I would want to know.
But it depends. There are some factors you
have to consider when it comes to other people’s business. Best advice: stay
out of it.
Yesterday, my friend was at work but where
was her man? At home (he should be at work by the way) entertaining a guest and
not of the platonic variety because this was not female gossip. A man close to
him actually told me. I got the 411 all the way from Rongai and I was in
Westlands, how nice is it to always be in the loop?
So he asks me how close are you to so and
so? I am like it is 11 years of knowing each other, the friendship is shaky at
times but it is one foot in and one foot out and you know why.
He asks me if I would tell my friend her
man is serial…he actually said serial, cheating on her. Not with one lady or an
on and off but he is on rotation. He is the male version of what you would call
the ladies of the night- his friends say that not I.
I and this lady have had a poor history as
I mentioned earlier and it was because I would blurt out what I needed to say
when it comes to her and the men she allows herself to deal with. You would
call it protecting a friend in the beginning until your friend lets you know
not so eloquently that she does not want your protection.
After I have explained that, you already
know I am not going to get involved in this one.
I also think my friend knows but has chosen
to ignore the whole situation because she is always talking about some drama
with some ex. That is how I know she knows. So it is not up to me to tell here
there are more.
My only worry was if she could catch
anything but I would wait for her to prompt the conversation before I brought
up anything. Being the single friend makes you that one who wants me to be like
her, I don’t want any of that backlash quite frankly. I do not want to be
blamed for her losing ‘a good thing going for her’.
Our relationship would also go back to that
time, ‘I was trying to steal her man’ by looking for problems so I stay out of
her and her relationships.
Don’t run your mouth to everyone no matter
how close, not everyone wants to know. Or they do know and they are wondering
why you think you come in.
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