Do not invite yourself to your boyfriend's plans
27 June 2016, 15:34
Nairobi - A friend told me it must be a really good sign that her
relationship is heading somewhere because her man invited her to a family
gathering. I just had to give an affirmative because I am starting to realize
when someone asks you a question; they already have their answer which they
like better than the one they are asking you to give.
I was happy that at least she had not invited herself. When
most people are not sure of where their relationship is going, sometimes they
are not even in one yet but they would like to force the situation. You want to
make your presence known so that they could give you that vote of confidence. It usually looks like a good idea right at
that moment but in hindsight it actually paints a very poor picture to the
person you are actually trying to end up with.
Inviting yourself to someone’s place, someone’s family home/
event or function or a meeting with friends- all a bad idea because trust me
they all know about you but they are all trying to decide where to place you.
One time you will end up there and find yourself with the competition (who was
actually invited) and you will create a strenuous environment for everyone. You
leave a bad taste in people’s mouths.
You paint a picture of desperation which is never what you
want. You need to do your own things and live your own life. You allow people
into your life not you chasing other people. It might end up the way you want
short term by twisting someone’s arm but it rarely ends well long term. Trying
to impress the relatives is a good plan but only after you have been given the
title and never before.
Is there a competition that you are trying to beat; then you
really are chasing after the wrong person? You should never try to end up with
someone who is making you fight for them like a medal. That tells you that the
other person will always be there.
Desperation has never been known to be an aphrodisiac but a
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