Do Kenyan men know how to be men?
12 May 2016, 13:45
Nairobi - I was torn between writing this article and not writing this article. I have noticed a trend. This morning I was watching AM Live on NTV and I like their topics in the morning. But they got me thinking. ‘Do Kenyan men know how to be men?’
Have you noticed that most of our topics range from, ‘Role of the man in the family.’ ‘Why are their more single mothers?’ ‘Why don’t women want to get married anymore?’
It is like Kenyan men no longer know how to be men but have to be taught on how to be men. On one extent I was sad but on the other end I was curious. Honestly speaking as a woman, you can choose to bash but you will eventually realize that it is a much bigger problem when you have a son and his father does not know how to be a father.
I told my mother you are lucky you do not have a son and she agreed with me. Obviously, she started talking about God and how he knows what he is doing but I was just like, ‘what would you have done if you had a son? Our problems would be much bigger in this house.’
You do not get it until you actually have to sit down and think about it. If your man is a bad example to his son then you already know that your son will not be god to you; especially if he is waking up and sleeping in the same house as his ‘friend’. If his father is a drunk, best believe that son will follow the same path. If his father believes in polygamy, then that is why his son has more than two baby mothers. If his father does not know how to commit to anything then you will now understand why this man cannot keep a job. It is normally a train.
You are still wondering why I told my mother she is lucky she did not have a son. It is because we already have a problem managing our father when it comes to my mother’s properties. He thinks he has a right to them yet she worked on them on her own. Now imagine if he had a son on his side. My mother would have been torn between surrender or neglect. Now do you understand?
Men no longer know how to be men but depend on their women to figure it out and that is a problem because women cannot be men. Women as empowered as they are are women at the end of the day and they have their own roles in society and in the family. But when you find that a man thinks he has the right to his wife’s property because he has nothing for himself, then you know you have a problem.
Kenyan men no longer know how to be men and that is a problem not just for them but for their families.
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