Desperate woman? blame yourself
18 November 2015, 16:59
Nairobi - As a woman, it is always in your subconscious as to when you
will finally be able to settle down and start a family of your own. That is if
it is your desire because for others that is just not part of their psyche or
interest. So you worry and make mistakes along the way by thinking that every
other man that comes your way might just be the one. You go out on a couple of
dates and even on the first one, you already know that he is not the one for
you but you decide to just stick around. You stick around because you do not
want to look back and think it you made a mistake when you see him making
another woman happy. You stick around because you have no fall back or any
What I will tell you is this you need to slow down and stop
making the wrong decisions. Even if you are past thirty and you know the
biological clock is ticking just slow down and do not make the mistake of
holding on to someone who is clearly showing you they are messing with you.
When you are in a rush you make the bad choice of picking
someone who is not good for you. You did not make a mistake by letting someone
go who was treating you badly. If they are happy with someone else and making
someone else happy that just means they are putting in effort for them that
they were not putting in for you. They did not think that you deserved it and
you need someone that thinks you deserve it.
Just because you have a timeline does not mean that the
other person will also be playing by it. You need to stop going for dates with
a mentality that this one might just be the one. Go on dates but go and just
have fun, meet people and figure it out step by step.
Forget the roles that you expect people to play in your life
but let them prove that they actually need to be in it. While you do that, you
will be working on yourself and discovering what you like and what you actually
want from the man that you end up with.
That is the only way that love will find you; when you are
so unbothered by trying to look for it or discovering it from every person that
crosses your path.
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