Dear Kenyan man, you did not bring your wife to work
07 September 2016, 20:34
Nairobi - Normally when I have something bad to say
about men I just say Kenyan men because most of the time it is from directly
dealing with you. Maybe some other men do the same but I am yet to experience
It is not all of you but let us just say,
Where to begin? Women seem not to be able
to catch a break. If it is not out there, you would expect it to be different
in a professional setting but wrong! It is like we are meant to experience all
types of bad tendencies from all directions.
There is this man that I work with and from
the very first moment I set eyes on him; my heart, head, instincts; everything
basically screamed no. So I did the professional thing- work, work, work- I did
not want to entertain him on anything else outside of work.
From the first day I came, it was dropping
by my desk with a snack, then it graduated to lunch being dropped on my desk.
You would think I would appreciate it; I would if it was from a good gentleman
but as I have said I just knew he was bad news from the moment I laid eyes on
him. This man was treating me like a lady you would want to court and for some
reason I was not interested. So I became a snob. It eventually graduated to
weekend invites and thank heavens I like my sleep more than I like people- my
excuses were always ready.
This is the type of man that if you don’t
agree to what he wants he creates an uncomfortable environment for you to work
in and it is someone that you actually have to liaise with. I cannot ignore the
man because my work includes his work so I actually have to talk to the man.
He is the type of man that does not respect
you as a professional but thinks he can talk to you at work the way he would
talk to his wife at home; as if you are beneath him.
He is the type that cannot pour his own tea
in the office but you have to do it for him since you are the lady- my foot! My
boss knows me, I don’t entertain such nonsense; if he even sends me to go buy
him coffee, he pays me. He goes and gets his own coffee most of the time.
This colleague is very insulting and I am
the type that will just stare at you while you bicker until you feel stupid. So
yesterday he comes to my desk and starts bickering and yelling like a woman
because he feels that he is of a higher status and I should do what he wants
(The big boss is away. The man has not even set foot where he is going and this
one has already started with me.). I told him to move away from my desk and go
talk to himself at his station. That made him madder because he was expecting
as a woman, I would try to have a ‘war of words’ with him. Like I said, very
stupid man. He is a woman in a man form; in terms of habits like those gossipy
women in the plot. Bickering and waddling in the office trying to have an
By the way, I later found out this man is
actually married with a kid- not the ones in rural home but here in town with
I feel very sorry for his wife because not
only does he not respect her but if he can behave like that with a colleague in
a professional setting; you can imagine how he is at home with her. Expecting
me to coddle him and grovel because he is the man. He is not even THE man by
the way. He does not pay my salary and there is only one person that I report
to- thank heavens it is not him because I would leave that job. This situation
put in mind a lady working for a man like him and reporting to him; that is why
I thought, women cannot catch a break anywhere.
He would be so uncomfortable.
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