Dating in the new age
14 June 2016, 15:14
Nairobi - I had dinner with a friend, and as usual I
am always the third party. She was with her man and I was there gate crushing.
Actually he was the gate crusher but that is fine too-the more the merrier. I was of course drinking too much wine and she
was having some weird sort of cough syrup looking cocktail-these bar tenders
and their ideas!
She gets tired of her drink and borrows
mine and I am thinking she wants to drink it but no she wanted to take pictures
with it. Her man’s hand was in the way, so in true lady fashion who loves
taking photos she tells off her man, ‘You are ruining my photo. Get your hand
out of the way.’
I mentally did a face palm. Why do you have
your boyfriend if you are going to talk to him so mean on something so irrelevant?
I was not going to say anything because I have learnt to stay out of people’s
The rest of the night, my friend left to
talk to her people at the club, leaving me with her man. I had just met the man
so as much I was trying to keep up the conversation, no need for him to find
out about my questionable mental disorders. Basically there was some awkward
silence here and there.
And that is why I am single. At times I
just watch couples and I am sure that I am not ready.
Invite your boo for a date and leave him
with your friend. Go talk to other people. If I was a really bad frienemy, I
would have gotten away with so much but I like my friend so I helped her
entertain her man while she mingled with everybody else.
Why are you with someone if you are going
to spend your whole time with them elsewhere; on your phone, even on a date? At
times, I think I have not enough numbers in my phonebook because I could be
sitting with a group and everybody is looking down at their phones and I am
left people watching. Basically what
happened with my friend and her man; we were together but they kept checking
their phones, my friend going away to receive calls the whole time I had to
keep the conversation going.
I cannot explain the phenomena because you
are with someone but when you are with them, you want other people there as
well. Are you afraid of actually spending time with someone and actually having
a real conversation? Or worst case scenario, you two have nothing to talk
It is just a ‘hi’, silence. Pause again
then one of us has to come up with something just so that it does not get
awkward. It is so mentally draining dating these days.
My mother gave me an age bracket I should
date and marry because she is worried I tend to go beyond zero grazing. I told
her, ‘I will bring you what I bring you and you will accept it.’ I just can’t
with these young people. I could shoot someone.
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