Curbing your man’s spending ways
18 October 2016, 18:22
Nairobi - Actually, the worst strategy you can ever
employ in your marriage is trying to control a man and his money- not the money
you have put together-but his money.
In a marriage (that is the only type of man
that is yours), there are a lot of things that a man loses control of because
he now has a wife and he has to negotiate with her as well as make every
decision with her. Nothing is his anymore, except for his money.
That is why when a woman starts a
conversation with, ‘I have an idea of how you can use this salary/ gains …’or
whatever, he is already put off. You missed him right at the point you started
a casual conversation with his money. Not even ours.
Control is very important to men, a man
will faster drink his own money down the drain and listen to his wife bicker of
how stupid he is than let her manage it for him. Even if she might be actually
good at it; for most men, some might
but not all. He will equate it to you trying to sit on his head, ‘are you the
head now? Who married who?’
man does a lot of impulse buying for the household
How to make a man stingy 101: Stop giving
short weekly lists and give him the whole bang- the monthly budget. If he is
the type that shops, give the long list that has all the items in large size
and not in small size. Small items= more money left in his pocket for him to
get that thing he wants but you all don’t need. On the other hand, a filled
trolley with necessities, with a growing budget gives him heartache. He will
always remember that spending at the beginning of the month that costs him more
than he should. It will make him only want to pick one item if he needs to not want
to during the month.
your man from boys’ night if he pours all his money there
You know those ones. The salary hits the
account Friday/ Monday; whole week, he is the one buying. Whole weekend, e is
the one sorting the trips and fuel. By mid-month, nothing for you guys he might
still have some he can spend out there, but he could have had more. You need to
find an activity he will enjoy doing with you. No-movies are overrated, romance
movies even worse; be creative- if you know what I mean. That way, next time
you suggest staying in, he will not mind at all because he knows what happens.
up with investments he will be interested in; where it deducts from the salary
immediately it hits
Key point here: Your money has to go into
it as well. You cannot give people advice on their money where you are not
leading by example as well. It will look like you are the one asking for help
but he gets to be a part of it through his own investment. Make it look like
his idea- that is the trick. You propose something then you say, ‘What do you
think? I am not sure since I do not know these things.’ This way he thinks he
is giving you advice.
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