Cheating is normal for Kenyan men
16 August 2016, 14:58
Nairobi - How my dreams come crushing down every day.
At this point I am not even sure if I want a relationship; of course I want one
or if my expectations are too high.
By expectations I am not talking about what
the guy can do for me, or the material. I am talking about a simple
relationship where I do not have to worry about catching something because we
are faithful and simply in a relationship together.
I talk to my male associates and friends so
that I can just get a glimpse of what is going on in
One of them whom I thought was faithful and
fully committed just dropped a loaded gun in my lap.
Him: ‘The key is to be honest about it from
the beginning. She has to know that after I leave her, there is somewhere else
I am going. She should not call me at certain times. So I just let them know.’
I told him I wanted to beat the crap out of
him. He laughed nonchalantly. ‘It is alright. I just know that I have what I
have at home and I will get back to it. These other ones just have to know it
is for fun and nothing else.’
At this point I was wondering if his wife
knew, because women are not dumb and had just chosen to accept it. It struck me
that she actually knew and just for the sake of her son, she chose to put up
with it. Also, she looks like those ladies, you get to a point and you are just
done with all the hullabaloo of getting out there and just choose to settle
down even if the guy is a complete jack ass.
Ladies, it is a lot of work. Admit it. When
you get to a certain age after you have had all the fun, the last thing on your
mind is going out for more and staying until late. You just want to drink wine,
watch television and send your child for the remote and food. We all get to
that age and she did long ago. She could care less what he was doing as long as
he kept it out of her way. It is a matter of priorities and what matters to you
It is not that your friend is dumb, she
knows, she is just quiet and minding her business as you should yours.
Yes, ladies, who are modern and disgusted
by this thought; that actually does happen. Never think that wives are stupid
or women who choose to stay around with a certain guy are idiots. Some women do
actually sit down and think of their options. I am not talking about lack of
offers but she looks at what she has now and its potential compared to what she
might find out there that might stress her more or fulfil her here but be lacking
elsewhere and she makes a choice. She chooses to put up with it not because if
stupidity but because of what it might mean for her and her child in the end.
Cheating father who takes care of them
versus lazy man who is not bothered while she struggles with everything.
I was angry with him but not for long
because I am not his wife or girlfriend I was just praying for my future
husband wherever he is not to be having such ideas.
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