Basically the things men want me to be loyal to, I just can’t
22 August 2016, 20:30
Nairobi - Oh, men they are a really interesting lot
and the reason there is a big outcry from them off late is not because the
woman are doing them any dirty but because they would like to keep doing what
they used to but the now-informed woman to keep pretending she is as clueless
and put up with it.
If she speaks out against it or act against
his expectations she is apparently disloyal.
I call it looking out for myself when I spot the bullshit.
Women are not disloyal, okay, maybe some
are but what you are fighting against the fact that women have chosen not to
sit around like dumb idiots and take it in the way you like dishing it.
can’t be loyal to lies
This man comes up to you with a story. He
spots you, and he has already put you in a box- she is just good enough for hit
and run, she is just good enough for something casual and fun, she is not my
type…you know the drill. So you take up the story and you play along as well,
he wants casual, I can do that. Soon as the man finds out you could be more, he
starts changing it up but the thing they do not get with us women is we do not
change it up. In relationships, the papers you serve me are the ones I commit
to- don’t come up with another agreement and be angry because she is not eating
your new game. Then call her disloyal because you still have nothing to offer
like you did before.
I have just moved on to someone who gave me
a better offer. I am not disloyal, you were just stupid.
cannot be loyal to inconsistency
Today he feels like showing up, tomorrow,
his phone is off. Today he wants to talk nicely. Tomorrow he is being a jack.
By the way let me tell you the tale of a certain Kisii man (this is why I do
not deal with Kenyan men). I gave him my phone number despite my ticker giving
me the warning kicker. It is Saturday, I am tired and asleep. My phone rings
and here he was calling, it was around 10pm. I look at it in my sleepy daze and
choose to pick up. First, it was the accent that hit me and I decide to ignore
it. He finds out I am sleeping and decides to be rude about it like I should
have been awake anticipating the call. Then he proceeds to tell me to talk to
him nicely. I also don’t know what he meant because I was still trying to wake
up and had barely said anything. So I take the phone off my ear and stare at it
like it’s a foreign object wondering what to do. He had already bored me and I
wanted to get back to sleeping. I just hang up.
One minute you act right, the next you are
something else. Am I meant to be blind to a man who knows what he is doing and
approaches me the right way? It is like telling me; I get two tenders, both to
be completed at the same period thus conflict of interest thus I should choose
one. Won’t I choose the one that plays to my interests? Will I go for the one
that looks like it is going to give me difficulties? Men need to stop being
we have to talk about money
There is a difference between you getting
through a rough patch and you waiting on me. Clear and concise and obvious
difference. Please, where are you confused? You cannot expect a lady to keep
you and be mad that she does not want to keep doing it. Unless it was an
agreement but the minute a man decides to not be bothered and she moves on; it
is not her but you. Men these days are too confused. The worst kind are the
ones that demand of her funds but his are a never to be discussed issue. If you
don’t want to talk about your money, don’t talk about mine.
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