Baggage you need to hide when you are considering someone a potential spouse
24 August 2016, 19:30
Nairobi - Actually it is a bad thing when you keep
things from your future spouse. It is totally ill advised. But this is Africa
and everyone is never honest about what they even ate for breakfast.
Couples are not even the face they show
their dates. Only the few are genuine that is why there is a high divorce rate
for this generation; no one knows their partner until they marry them and wake
up to them every day.
you should not hide
Kids- No matter where you are currently keeping them while pretending to
be single and tight; they always come up and it will lead to what you are
afraid of. Your spouse will eventually visit your parents and see the aliens.
Your baby daddy or baby mother will show up at the most inconvenient time- you
cannot hide these ones. You will have to provide for them and that directly
means that your spouse will as well. They will find out. That is the point.
Let them choose to stick around after the
fact but as long as you lie, you have just destroyed everything.
Sickness is not something you can help, but
the bad ones like sickle cell, they need to know.
STD- If you have herpes you cannot hide it
from someone you want to be with permanently.
you can keep to yourself
They do ruin good relationships because you
are still keeping them around and entertaining them. You cannot say that they
will not leave you alone when you keep taking the calls and opening the door.
Sometimes ignoring does work-eventually.
We all have them, okay, most of us do. Some
things are just better left unsaid if they do not add but subtract from
everything. For example, if you were once a stripper and changed your mind to
become something better that does not involve you being naked but more toned
down and professional; keep it to yourself. It does not need to be said.
If you once pushed a cart and you decided
you do want a trophy wife who would never
date someone ‘below’ her- it is okay to keep it to yourself.
Your relatives can kill a fruitful
relationship. Some of them your beau should never see until after the ceremony.
Infact the less family events, the better. Because we all know that group that
has no sensor and when they start talking you can cringe and kill yourself.
They are the ones that will talk about your hidden kid/s, that forbidden thing
you once did and just spill out everything. There are also the ones that make
away with things from your boos house, or borrow money and it is just the first
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.