Advice from my father about what men like
15 August 2016, 15:00
Nairobi - So the most incredulous thing happened this
past Saturday. In my house, all of us girls we act like we will know of boys
when we enter our husband’s house. We don’t even know what dating is, we will
meet him at the altar by some chance.
Very normal in any African home.
On this Saturday though, my father tells
me, he will drop me off to work, tells me, and not asks. There is no way I was
going to say no or make up anything. I was going to have to wait until he was
done with his tea then we were all going to leave together.
I just knew he has something up his sleeve;
we rarely talk and I was already suspicious. At least I was saving the
humongous fare from Rongai and that is how I chose to look at it.
After some mundane small talk and a bit of
silence, he finally gets it off his chest, ‘….but Shakila, don’t you think you
put on too much make up?’
To say I was a bit taken back by the
statement would be an understatement. You see the way your mother slapped you,
but you never saw it coming, you could not even tear up because you were not sure
that she had just slapped you- that reaction!
Guys, I had just put on eyeliner and
lipstick; but to my dad that was too much make up. I asked him how and
mentioned how maybe my lipstick is what was turning him off. It was not even
red, pink or bright but just a matte brown.
‘You have put make up on the eyes, the
lips, you know people don’t like that.’ By people you already know he is
talking about men.
I think my dad is worried I might end up a
spinster in his house. I was amused. Because am clocking that dreaded age and
he has not seen me holding hands with a man outside his gate or leave the house
at odd hours to see someone or even surprised him with a child.
He is now worried that maybe I wear too
much make up and that is why men don’t want me. My dada was trying to figure in
his mind why I have not had an ‘accident’ that would take me off his hands.
He decides to give me pointers on what men
like. He has no idea of how times have changed. Had to tell him how
presentation matters and how my face works to my advantage most times.
He thinks once a man sees you in make-up it
mean you are high maintenance. I am high maintenance but I have not asked for
any help from a man so far so I think I am good. The one who will take me as I
am will be the one that needs to be there.
Shame on me if I go around bare faced just
to attract a man and cry foul when I want to change it up and he does not like
The one who wants you will take you as you
are and not the way you pretend to be. And anyway, I like make –up because I am
a woman and I just like to complicate my life.
On that note, I cannot wait for the next
topic my father comes up with, with regard to my man less state.
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