A man asked me to be his sugar mummy
09 March 2016, 19:50
Nairobi - Nothing confused me more in my dating life as the first time
a man asked me if I could be his sponsor. Before you get confused, I am not
rich neither do I portray to be so but this man just assumed that because I had
done my nails and looked very well put together in my African braids that I had
I was so offended but you know how a moment can quickly get
awkward but you both see it and decide to cover it up with some fake laugh?
That is what happened and from that moment on I knew I was in for it just from
that one date that I was about to have. I had already cancelled him in my head
but I had to be courteous enough to stay up until the end.
I am slowly starting to understand the reason behind so many
Kenyan women opting to stay alone and raise kids alone. Why they are opting to
just not to put up with some things because judging from the crop you date, if
that is a show of the Kenyan man’s best foot forward-more like worst foot to
ever be presented.
I will not even lie but my date turned out to be a
freeloader. You know the way someone keeps talking about independent women, how
he likes such and how he just wants someone to ‘hold him down’ the whole time? Stay away from that one. That does not want someone to grow with but
someone to just take over. I ended up paying for the whole date and you know
those men that start a conversation as to why everything is so expensive and
calls the waiter to discuss it further in that restaurant yet he chose it; that
type. Then he starts talking about how he is always prepared but he has no idea
how he messed up this weekend; that type.
Don’t feel complimented when a man starts talking to you
about how he appreciates a woman like you who can do it all for herself and how
he is always looking for such but never finds them. Be very fearful because
this one will be zoning in on your ovaries; not because you are the amazing
wife material that you might be but because he is about to bring the misery in
his life to your life. He wants a woman who can easily clear up his messes
without ruining his mental stability.
He knows that is he drinks the school fees; you will pick up
the slack. He knows that if he concentrates on his numerous projects despite
the fact they do not bring in any income, he has a woman who can hold him down. A woman that does not
need his input but he would really like his physical presence to be felt. He
sticks around because not that he lacks female attention and companionship but
because those ones ask for things but you do not.
My dear please do not feel complimented because you want a
man in the house, you will not feel it initially until that moment you realize
that you are taking care of everything by yourself. You thought you were being a good woman who
was not bothersome but by the time you realize it, you are three kids in and
dealing with all of that on your own. Picture this realistically, which good
man that might still be out there for you will want to take in another man’s
family. You will be stuck with this man and some men do make themselves a
nuisance when it comes to divorcing them. When a freeloader knows the going is
good, he will make sure that all his kids are had by that one woman who can
sort them all out by herself and it is also because he also knows no man will
easily take in another man’s family. He will also make it hard for you to
offload him that is why for many women, you look at them and wonder why they
are still with someone who is clearly not helping them.
She has tried but trust me; he is not making it easy
especially if he has been living with her. This is not marrying potential but
you are about to live a life where you are being taken for granted.
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