A guide for Kenyan men to be better husbands
06 September 2016, 22:16
Nairobi - A guide for Kenyan men to be better husbands.
Your wife is just not mother but a woman still that needs a man
You have to still take your wife on dates, surprise her and make her feel like she is still that person you first met. Forget or ignore and wait until it blows back in your face. There is someone that will eventually notice and swoop in and if not that; you cannot expect her to do the same things for you if you forget about her. That is why it reaches a point a woman does not want any physical contact with you because you just come from nowhere and jump on her. But when was the last time you actually talked to her and found out how she is doing.
Your wife has to have a life of her own outside your marriage
I am not talking about the shallow wife with ‘secret chama’ meetings or gossiping at the salon but the wife whom you think of that should just be about the kids and you. Mother’s also need breaks from their own kids; they are a handful and that is why you run away from them. So help your wife with the kids at times and allow her to have some leisure time as well. Without you calling every hour to check whom she is with. She will appreciate it. Wives forget to have fun and it is a dangerous thing for most marriages because it is what leads to emotional distancing between you two, maybe some cheating, a bit or a lot of depression and eventually misery.
Her having something new to talk to you about is what will create and revive a connection between the two of you or create a stronger bond if you still have it.
If you want your wife to work out; you better be doing the same as well
That face you make when the man with a potbelly looking scruffy starts complaining how his wife is no longer what she used to be and that is why he should take a shot at the sweet young thing.
If you are not it then why do you expect your wife to snap out of it and make her an ‘it’ for you? It starts with you. I am not advocating for a woman letting herself go but you know you cannot complain if you are not a dashing lad!
If you are a boyfriend, don’t marry her if you know you are not done tasting all the delicacies
You reach that age and the pressure is on; so you settle down. But what is the point of all that if you spend the whole time married playing hard and seek with your wife and STDs? If your wife is respecting you then why the hell do you have to make her look foolish by cheating openly or even secretly? It is not the done thing. I know this one is getting one ear and leaving with the other one because it is trendy at the moment in our society to do whatever no matter your status.
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