Why he didn't call back after the first date
20 October 2015, 11:15
Your heels were a nice mid-way between nice and cute, you wore your loveliest dress, your lips bore the classic lip balm but he still did not call you after the first date! You thought you did all the right things, and laughed at his jokes at the appropriate times. You even offered to split the bill, but as a gentleman, he respectfully declined the offer, and you took that as one of the key signs that he is the one. So what the hell happened? Why is your phone not buzzing at 3 am with messages from him or ringing inappropriately during meetings with your boss?
1. You couldn't step out of the Digital-sphere
There is no greater turn off than trying to have a conversation with someone who would rather be exchanging witty thoughts with their 10 000 followers. Often it screams 'I'm-not-interested-in-you-or-what-you-have-to-say'! Was your phone in hand most of the time you spent together? Or were you regularly dipping your hand in your purse to take a peek at your notifications? Although often considered an insignificant thing, this might have dissolved potential man’s interest.
2. You got drunk
There is probably nothing more unattractive than having to carry your date home because they physically can't walk on their own, or having your date laugh so loudly that the restaurant staff have to repeatedly ask them to keep it low. It is okay to have a good time, but avoid drinking in excess for both safety reasons and because it would be nice if you were not the guinea of his friend's jokes the next day.
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3. You have the wrong conversation
While it is important for you and a potential partner to be on the same page in relation to key issues, hitting him with questions on his political, religious, or what-do-you-think-about-gay-marriage views on the first date might just have been a bit too much, too soon.
4. You cyber-stalked him
And you let him know! It's one thing to comb through someone’s profiles and something entirely different to boldly show off your detective skills. It is your choice whether or not you would like to do a little background check but letting him know might just have scared him off!
5. You were not being yourself
It is always easy to spot someone who is trying to be what they imagine the other person wants them to be or what they think they should be. If you like sports, don't pretend you don't know a popular footballer, just because you want to appear more 'feminine'. If you have opinions you'd like to share, don't pretend to agree with everything he says, nodding and smiling . He might have seen through the façade and lost interest.
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