Why do men go for the difficult woman?
03 December 2014, 19:02
Nairobi - To the long list of sins that men commit add the fact that
they really can make the poorest decisions when it comes to women. It is the
age old question that perfectly hardworking, nice, ladylike, church going women
have never been able to understand. Here you are perfect, ready to commit to
the man that is brave enough to walk to the alter with you but you just do not
understand why he has to go for that one dressed in an #my dress my choice
outfit, goes out every night, drinks and wakes up at two on Sunday.
What is the
deal with men and difficult crazy women? What is her allure that you can borrow
and add onto the rest of your perfect character that will just make you the
wholesome woman for him?
And it is always the nice guys that get hooked in because
the bad boy is the being chased as he is not easily pulled in by her tactics.
What the nice guy since in that crazy girl is her willingness to step out of
the comfort zone that he has placed himself in. Call it the yin and yang of the
relationship. He likes the fact that she is not afraid to do what pleases her
and go after what she wants.
In a relationship setting that is perfect for him
because she makes him feel like he won an award and he is the prize while the
rest were left holding the mantle. But not being held back by societal
standards is what is attractive about her. Translate into the business setting,
the bedroom-she does it all with a passion and what man does not want that.
Then there is the
damsel in distress, the man wants to be the one that finally gets through to
her. Being the superman in her fairytale, which usually does not work out
because at the end of the rope, he figures out that he cannot fix her. And he
finally settles for you the nice girl and will still feel like he lost because
he could not make her settle.
The crazy women are
also like a science experiment, specifically in chemistry. At times you just do
not know what you are going to get at the end of the day. The reason most men
avoid commitment is the predictability of it. I have nothing against church
girls, God time is not bad. But every Sunday is predictable already unless he
shares a passion for that too, then you are good.
Crazy women are spontaneous,
thin outside the box and willing to do something that is out of the ordinary
and that novelty can never wear off.
This is not about trashy women only but classy ladies are
out there that embody the same they are just trickier to find and when the man
does find her it soon becomes a rollercoaster ride for him that he cannot
easily get off.
So take your pick.
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