Why contacting the ex is never the best idea
24 September 2014, 15:13
Nairobi - Exes are just a chapter that should be left closed. But at
times they may feel like that good book you once read and you want to go back
to the best excerpts. May seem like a good idea up until the bad parts start
creeping up and you remember why you broke up in the first place. It can also
be very weird when you go after someone who does not want any contact with you.
The guys never tell
you not to contact them, because to them you are that backup plan they will
always have when they want to have sex. The women are the ones who like looking
back thinking that maybe they will be able to build something since they have
now learnt their mistakes.
It may become a bit of a problem if for example;
When you have fond memories and they do not
When you want
something back, you have the tendency of only remembering the best situations.
You forget about the hardships, it is even worse when you were the cause. So
you try to contact the ex and what you get is a negative response because you
are that person they wish they never met or they just want to forget you exist.
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When you become a stalker
Obsessing over the ex
and their situation. Creating fake Facebook or Twitter accounts to stalk them
and know if they have moved on or what is currently happening in their lives.
If they are as miserable as you are, befriending the current girlfriend. Some
people just take looking up the ex a bit too far.
When you find out
they look better than they did before
And you just want to
relive more of the moments you had with them because they have become a much
better person than you expected. While you still look the same or even worse
and they do not want anything to do with you.
You are a person who
does not move on
You are one of those
that like looking back when things go awry. You like looking up and meeting up
your old ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. Can be interesting to catch up but
when you make up a habit of on and off relationships with your exes then you
are setting yourself up for constant failure.
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