Why are you single?
16 September 2015, 18:47
Nairobi - Just because someone is single or has chosen to stay that
way does not mean they have no options. About 9 billion people, trust me, every
devil has its follower. It is just a matter of some people not being worth your
time or effort.
There are two categories; either a. you choose to stay
single because you like it or b. you are single but you are waiting for the
right person or c. you are single because no one can handle dealing with you on
a daily basis. So three categories, not two; the last just occurred to me.
The last two categories are the ones that cause a lot of
confusion. Someone coming up to you and asking you what is wrong with you and
why you are not with someone. I have realized that a lot of people thrive on
the basis of being in a relationship. I once had a man tell me that no man
wants me because I am with holding my vagina from the purpose that it was aimed
for. I told him that I just respect it enough not to auction it to every pauper
that comes my way. Not everybody can handle it; including him. I think that was
the wisest decision I have ever made, or one of the wisest because I do not
think that me and that man would have gone anywhere. At all! See how much
effort and time I saved there?
A lot of people are yet to see that or realize it when they
are dealing with someone they are trying to settle with. Not every thing needs to be in a relationship.
Not everyone respects the foundations required to be in a good, successful
relationship. And that is what you want. Right? Not everyone wants a
relationship and not everyone is meant to be in a relationship. There are just
some people that you are wasting your time with.
You have criteria of expectations but you end up choosing a
subject that displays tendencies of the complete opposite of what you want or
does not have anything that tells you they are the one for you. You keep trying
to test them and remake them hoping that they will evolve. Monkeys evolved from
their same species. A rat did not turn into a monkey.
It is the same with humans and relationships. If you want a
certain type of women or man; go on the date, yes but if they are not what you
hope to get from a relationship then leave them alone and continue looking for
the one you want. Don’t sit there, hand holding with a rat, praying that one
day they will become that monkey you wanted in the first place. That is some
magic trick that I have not yet seen being performed. If and when it happens,
then I will happily admit my mistake.
If you are single and searching for the right person for
you, then you are on the right track but do not be single and trying to force
another single that is not interested or is not what you want. When you feel like
giving up, remember what I said, 7 billion people, every devil has a follower
even ten. Just be patient.
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