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Why Kenyan men are shaking in their boots

06 May 2015, 13:52 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi -  A certain missus got engaged and it actually broke the Kenyan social sphere literally. My male friends are ranting. I wonder what you are ranting about when you never met her and chances are you never ever were going to. But I was so happy for Ess and I am sure a lot of Kenyan women share the same sentiment with me. One less female to battle with. It was getting tedious with all that idol worship. Now they have to look for someone else to compare us with which I hope will take a minute. I still love her though.


But, what caught our attention was her story. Of the engagement. Which is what I am going to talk about.

Now this Lonina person has just upped the stakes for the Kenyan men. We normally see the chopper being rented for the wedding. For a few hours, to drop the bride and it’s whisked away. Now he decided to start early and have it for the engagement. Not only that, the whole thing was so properly executed meaning that this man actually sat down and thought out this whole thing. Worst part is, it was to a high profile female who everybody knows. She is a role model, now imagine what the women are thinking at the moment.

Not that we want you to get a chopper. Actually it depends with who you are seeing because now, even though you live in a two-bedroom flat and you were to propose this month, Lonina has ruined it for you. Especially if she has an inkling of it. She is now hoping that yours had better be as memorable as that and well thought out.

Bended knee in the restaurant had better have more to it than that.

It is actually better if you just postponed that engagement until all this furor over Sharon’s has died down. If it is not that good, kill it.

You will be doing yourself a favor. Let me put it in perspective for you. She knows you have been planning it for months. Now Lonina’s execution has made yours look like the work of a two year old. You are now dripping with sweat because it is obvious yours does not make the cut. You know she knows you are about to propose. When a man proposes, you expect her to be appreciative that you have taken her out of the market. If you propose now and it’s boring, she will just be like, ‘oh, okay!’ With a sad bored look on her face.

On the other hand if you make her wait, she now has something to worry about like have you changed your mind? Is there someone else? What has she done that might have made you not want to propose again? That is how you turn the tables. Until when you actually propose, she will be excited and will not care that it was not in a chopper or on top of Mt. Kenya. That is how much stock women put in your engagement.

To her, it is not just about you giving her the promise of marriage with a semi-ring. She will consider how much you care for her by the thought you put in it. That is why they never show you engagements where the man just said, ‘shika hii ring, anza kupanga hiyo harusi!’ They will show you the one in a restaurant where a cake had a ring inside or glass of champagne with the ring in it. With a good mood, music and a band coming to sing beside the table. The woman will equate the love you have for her by the process and the little bits you know about her that are included in the engagement.  That is why Sharon is the envy of the Kenyan female population. Not because of the chopper or being taken to freeze at Mt. Kenya but because she was center stage of that whole engagement and Lonina took the time to figure out what would or would not work. She was not dressed in heels or tight clingy dress or a table already set but just comfortable like nothing new was about to happen.


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