Why Kenyan men are shaking in their boots
06 May 2015, 13:52
Nairobi - A certain missus got engaged and it actually broke the
Kenyan social sphere literally. My male friends are ranting. I wonder what you
are ranting about when you never met her and chances are you never ever were
going to. But I was so happy for Ess and I am sure a lot of Kenyan women share
the same sentiment with me. One less female to battle with. It was getting
tedious with all that idol worship. Now they have to look for someone else to
compare us with which I hope will take a minute. I still love her though.
But, what caught our attention was her story. Of the
engagement. Which is what I am going to talk about.
Now this Lonina person has just upped the stakes for the
Kenyan men. We normally see the chopper being rented for the wedding. For a few
hours, to drop the bride and it’s whisked away. Now he decided to start early
and have it for the engagement. Not only that, the whole thing was so properly
executed meaning that this man actually sat down and thought out this whole
thing. Worst part is, it was to a high profile female who everybody knows. She
is a role model, now imagine what the women are thinking at the moment.
Not that we want you to get a chopper. Actually it depends
with who you are seeing because now, even though you live in a two-bedroom flat
and you were to propose this month, Lonina has ruined it for you. Especially if
she has an inkling of it. She is now hoping that yours had better be as
memorable as that and well thought out.
Bended knee in the restaurant had better have more to it than
It is actually better if you just postponed that engagement
until all this furor over Sharon’s has died down. If it is not that good, kill
You will be doing yourself a favor. Let me put it in
perspective for you. She knows you have been planning it for months. Now
Lonina’s execution has made yours look like the work of a two year old. You are
now dripping with sweat because it is obvious yours does not make the cut. You
know she knows you are about to propose. When a man proposes, you expect her to
be appreciative that you have taken her out of the market. If you propose now
and it’s boring, she will just be like, ‘oh, okay!’ With a sad bored look on
On the other hand if you make her wait, she now has
something to worry about like have you changed your mind? Is there someone
else? What has she done that might have made you not want to propose again?
That is how you turn the tables. Until when you actually propose, she will be
excited and will not care that it was not in a chopper or on top of Mt. Kenya.
That is how much stock women put in your engagement.
To her, it is not just about you giving her the promise of
marriage with a semi-ring. She will consider how much you care for her by the
thought you put in it. That is why they never show you engagements where the
man just said, ‘shika hii ring, anza kupanga hiyo harusi!’ They will show you
the one in a restaurant where a cake had a ring inside or glass of champagne
with the ring in it. With a good mood, music and a band coming to sing beside
the table. The woman will equate the love you have for her by the process and
the little bits you know about her that are included in the engagement. That is why Sharon is the envy of the Kenyan
female population. Not because of the chopper or being taken to freeze at Mt.
Kenya but because she was center stage of that whole
engagement and Lonina took the time to figure out what would or would not work.
She was not dressed in heels or tight clingy dress or a table already set but
just comfortable like nothing new was about to happen.
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