Why I am still single
25 March 2015, 15:22
Nairobi - There is no shortage of men in Kenya, let alone Nairobi.
Yes, I want a Nairobian, a modern man who will not ask me to eat Ugali 24/7. Someone
I can feed whatever I want and will appreciate it.
My father has to eat Ugali every night, and it had better
not be in a hotpot. It has to be cooked fresh
as soon as he gets home. If he gets home at midnight, one or eleven at night;
wake up and cook that Ugali. The beauty
of it is that, he does not eat food cooked by a house help, my mother passed
the duty to us. She says she did her part now it is our turn, it is like we are
the ones who helped her choose her husband. Most times I just pretend to be
asleep. I did not tell him to stay out until late.
I do not see myself as too demanding either; I take care of
myself. So your money is safe from any financial obligation towards me. All I
require from you is the odd date when I can spare you my time. I do not shout,
I could barely scream to save my life. I realized this when once I was at home
and some clever thief decided to canvass our homestead as he assumed no one was
at home. So I walk out and he sees me, I also see him but the best I could do
was just fold my hands and give him a dirty look. It must have been so good
because he dropped all he had found from the store and jumped back out. I was
not able to scream.
I do not know how to nag, but I do know how to manipulate
with silent treatment. You will also have to bear with me because at times I
get into my own head and forget that you are even there. I do not see the need
for a pointless conversation when silence is better. But I heard men like women
who do not chatter. So why am I still single? I will tell you why.
As I am writing this article I sat in a room full of men. As
I look around, there is no one I would consider dating (there is one staring at
me very hard). Maybe if he looks hard enough I might prove to be what he wants
me to be. Are my standards too high? Maybe. Probably. I am a woman who refuses
to settle. There is a lot that I have no choice in but in the rare cases that I
do like this one, I take my time. If I have to spend my time, day or life with
someone they had better be worth it. Otherwise that is a waste of good
conversation, companionship, time and even money. What did you think, that just
because you are paying for the date, I am not spending anything? To look this
good, a lot of money goes into it.
I also refuse the idea of going online to look for a date. I
meet enough frauds in my daily transaction. I would be a fool to choose to
spend my life with one. Some of these people are not who they say they are.
Also I have not reached that point that I am that desperate to be looking over
people’s profiles. The best ones are found underneath a haystack.
Who you end up with is also a reflection of yourself. I have
a very high opinion of myself, sorry to say. I know what I want and it is
proving to be very hard to find. An ambitious man, who knows what he wants in
life. Will not waste my time playing games with me or have over-excessive
baggage (children, deranged exes and
interfering relatives) is harder to find than you would think. Woe unto me to
rush into something and make these discoveries after a hooked line and sinker.
I am not in a rush. No matter how many of my people post how pregnant they are,
are getting married or engaged; I am not in a rush.
As I mentioned earlier, I need an open minded individual. I
like cooking but I also like experimenting. Meaning you will be my food guinea pig.
At times it will backfire, at times it will be good. You need to be open minded
and not come to me with how you think I should start cooking like your mother,
or a former girlfriend. Most of these Kenyan men think rice is an appetizer,
after they finished eating they look at you wondering when you are serving the
main course. It was served already.
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