When she wants to meet your friends
07 May 2015, 14:33
Nairobi - There is a reason why women in relationships want to tag
along to your boys’ night out.
You know very well she has laundry to do. Her nails need a
do-over and she had said she was going to stay in that Saturday and do them.
She needs to do her hair. Or she was going to visit other people. So you made
plans to meet with the boys instead. You
think you are going alone but she changes her mind about doing whatever she had
planned to do and instead offers to come along. You cannot say no!
In the back of your head you are wondering, does she think
we are going to meet with other women? Does she think I am lying? Does she not
trust me? You still cannot say no though!
In your mind you are wondering whether it is the beer she
wants to drink and how comfortable you will now have to make her since she has
decided to ruin it for you. You still cannot raise your doubts about her coming
along unless you want to set off some nuclear bomb.
You still think it’s about her insecurity with you and other
women, more like insecurity with you and why you have more fun with the boys
and not in a way you do with her.
It is curiosity that makes women want to tag along to boys
night out. She will never get it though because how you behave when she is
around is completely different with when it is you and the fellow guys alone.
She will not see the way you fall at the bar as you break
out in a horrible jig. She will not see you choke over cheap whisky and get you
back whacked. She will not see you and your fellows try to outdo each other and
see if you still ‘got it’.
While she is around, you all sit in an organized manner
while the guys give you side looks as to why you could not find an excuse for
her not to tag along. You order the expensive liquor that is now out of your
set budget if you include her cocktails if she does not guzzle beer. You cannot
make jokes that are in bad taste or form or misbehave.
So she sits there bored, you are thinking that she is
looking out for any women; she is wondering what is so fun that you are always
having when she calls you on the phone.
We dislike it intensely when we cannot be a part of the
thing that is so enjoyable to our men. We like to think that if everything else
is taken out of the equation, we like to believe if you just say ‘I am still
here’,he will not have a forlorn look because you represent everything that
makes him happy and fun in his life.
That is why a lot of women cannot understand the male bond
and why it is so important. We like to think that we can meet all our men’s
needs but at the end of the day we cannot be his male groupie that he takes a
time out in.
When a woman is tagging along to the boy’s night out she is
going to find out what you actually do (which you do not do) so that she can
find a way of supplying it herself and reduce the number of boys’ nights out.
Or find a way to limit your time with your single bachelor friends.
That is the insecurity that a lot of people men and women
never get to know about understand or talk about. When she does not represent
the absolute fun for you as compared to when you are laughing so hard when she
calls that you cannot even talk. Why do you not laugh like that when she is
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