When a woman you know takes your man
03 December 2014, 17:37
Nairobi - Is it so wrong when you take another woman’s man? He is
either the boyfriend of the friend, the family friend, the sister, a
relative…those are the ones that usually hurt because they are your closest
Is the man worth it? That is the point that you should really
sit down and think about because at times he really just isn’t. At the end of the day, why ruin really good relationships for
something that will burn out after the spark has faded out. The rule is, if you
are going to steal another woman’s man, you might as well make it work and make
sure that the two of you do not look like fools a few months later.
where the difference between Alicia Keys and Jennifer Lopez lies. Alicia has
stuck it out no matter how horrible it may be for her, she does not want to
look the fool after stealing someone else’s man. On the other hand J-Lo stole
Mark Anthony but look how that ended. In this case it is the man who lost
because soon enough she moved onto other game.
It happens all the time and the worst is when you become the
second wife or the mistress on the side, because believe you me, the clueless
friend or sister may not be too clueless. Thing is, men do realize when they are
being shortchanged and that is why many women never want to introduce their men
to the family or friends because even family can never be truly trusted. Look
at it this way, why settle for the minivan when you can have the range rover.
No man wants the woman who is the second grade of her closest associations that
he has met because he will also feel like he also lost. The ego does not and
will never like that. He will sit and watch and notice that the female he is
with is the follower and soon enough, he would like to have the leader of the
pack. That is where your sister, friend or relative comes in and women too do
not like to lose.
You may try to make it seem aright that maybe he was never
really meant for you and he is not worth it but at the end of the day
relationships are like any other game and no one ever likes being the loser.
And being reminded when the trophy is constantly in display. There has always
been a code but truth be told no one ever really follows it especially when it
comes to something that they really want.
I would never really go after my sister’s man, but she probably would go
after mine because at the end of the day I make better choices than she ever
has. Will I give her an opportunity to do so, maybe, maybe not but I will damn
her if she ever tried and it is something that is quite non-negotiable. We
women are territorial in that way too.
What about a friends? That is 50/50
because I think I have trust issues and women are the last people I would
completely trust. I would not because I still maintain I make better choices
and I do not want a man that my friend has been with as I know her unhinged
aspects but I do know many friends that would not think twice about it. Because
in the race at being the best you always want what you cannot have, is better
than what you currently have or is just out of your league. That is what makes
for uncomfortable relations and family gatherings. Because so and so is now
married to whoever’s ex-boyfriend or ex-husband.
Where do you lie on this?
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