What women want: Man vs boy
10 October 2014, 16:07
Nairobi - A lot of men are out there thinking that they are the confident guy while others are cocking their head to the side wondering what I mean when I say a cocky guy. On the other hand, there are others who are so annoying thinking that they are confident trying too hard to just be that. Cocky is thinking that you are up there when in real sense you really are not. Thinking that you get the best women when in real sense, your women lack quality and they are as tacky as they get.
It is like that episode on The Trend where the girl brought some fake red Timberland boots on the show to diss the guy she went on the Tujuane date with. You think you have something when in reality you do not. Confidence is not about floss, not putting it out there-because you really do not need to, it shows even when you have KES 100 shoes on. That is the pull and that is what we women like.
The man vs the boy
The man has confidence while the boy is cocky. A boy wants to be seen with all the women in the vicinity while the man has that woman who is quality. He gets her and does not need to explain his association with the woman to anyone. Watch the boy get doubts just because the boys had the temerity to ask him what he sees in her. Watch him dump her, so that he can floss with the one they got for him. The man never lets anyone question him. If you feel you need to explain your actions to anyone then you are not confident.
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Need to impress?
Do you need to impress, someone…anyone? There is only so far you can go with that, you will reach the end of your tether with that then will still look back for the confident guy. Confidence does not need to impress anyone while cockiness looks to do the same. I am not that you do not take your girl for date or buy her something, now that is just plain cheap but when you need to buy her affection in the first place, for her to feel like you are the man, then you are most definitely not.
Confidence is humbling-Cockiness is ‘swagger’
If you feel the need to tell people and brag, the need to be pompous and posture like a cock from ‘mashambani’ recently arrived, then that is cocky. Confident people do not need all that. Their actions speak for themselves.
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