What to do when he or she cheats?
10 November 2014, 20:55
Nairobi - There are many reasons as to why people cheat; loss of
affection, loss of attraction between the two of you, boredom, temptation, but
love never comes into play.
There is a reason to be worried if you know your
partner cheated in your relationship or you poached your current boyfriend of girlfriend
from someone else. A new study has revealed that once a person is a cheat, they
will always be cheats and they will cheat on you too.
The study done by Normal Bar found that people who entered
into one relationship by cheating on their previous partner tended to be less
committed, less satisfied, and less invested in their new relationships because
paid more attention to romantic alternatives, as this might be part of the
reason they cheated in the first place. It lacked in their relationship but as
soon as they got this they still keep looking outside the ‘new’ relationship
because it is how they think.
For them things are always better up until they
get it then they look again for something better leading to higher rates of infidelity. The Normal Bar,
33% of men and 19% of women admitted to being unfaithful.
The study also points
out that for most people there is a big difference for them when they cheat by
having a single one night stand in the course of a long-term marriage as
compared to having regular affairs.
Kenyan marriages may not be founded in the same numbers but
even more. In most cases a partner never even finds out about it because the
way most things are done are so different as compared to the former days. There
were rare cases of business trips done out of town especially where women are
concerned. This is because the job market was mostly dominated by men and the
women were not yet accepted in the higher ranks especially politics.
formerly, women were more about the family and the man was perceived as the
head of the household and he could put his foot down and forbid the wife from
leave alone business trip, even staying at work past five o’clock keeping late
hours was unacceptable. The marriage institution has gone through an obvious
shift where things are done differently and relationships are more open as compared to when people used to date
immediately after high school and marry immediately afterwards to raise a family.
Now most people’s first
thought is usually making money and while they are at it they play first and
loose indiscriminately. And not with unknown individuals but more likely with
those in their circles such as colleagues, friends and close acquaintances.
It all boils down to fickleness, but to each his own because
some do get lucky and they actually end up working as compared to the former
But as they say, once a cheat, always one.
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