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Ways to solve relationship conflict

15 September 2014, 12:31 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - Talking to your partner may prove to be the hardest of all tasks for most people.

Set a time and date

Some people just start to bring up key issues at a time when their partner was not prepared for them. They were either pre-occupied with something else that you are not aware of. This is when as a partner you start telling yourself that they are not taking you seriously. Yet the tactic you used is what let you down. When someone comes from work, do not immediately bombard them with issues. Let them chill, give them space, and when they are finally done, tell them there are some things you need to sought out, and ask when would they like to talk.

This way, they will be more open minded to what you have to say and they will be more likely to participate.

Have the conversation in a neutral space

Other people just cannot talk to each other without shouting at each other and throwing things. In the end no-one gets their point across. For such a couple, it is better to arrange to go out for lunch or coffee, that way the embarrassment of such behavior will induce each party to behave. No one is allowed to walk away though unless it gets insulting or abusive.

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Re-incarnating grudges

One thing that may make a partner not anticipate to have any conversation to sought things out is when you keep reminding them of what they did at that time yet they promised they would change and they did. It is only legit if they keep hurting you the same way over and over again.

Watch your non-verbal cues

Others just make you angry from the way they respond; scoffing, rolling eyes, making sounds. You wonder if you are dating an overgrown child. It may not be an outright insult but it is downright disrespectful. When you do such, even I would not want to talk to you.

Bringing other people into your relationships

Always listening to what other people say instead of what your partner has to say may be detrimental. Maybe you should be in a relationship with them. Obviously there is good advice, but there can be harmful advice as well. You need to be able to know how to separate the wheat from the chaff.

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Watch your tone

Obviously when you start in an accusatory, disrespectful, belittling tone; this person will not be interested in what you have to say. They just close-off even if they were initially open-minded.  Avoid this by avoiding escalation when you keep things bottled inside over a long period of time.

Obviously this is not an accurate map but a guideline. Each person is different. Thus, you should be able to know what would work for them. Does not apply only to man-woman relationships but any kind of relationship.

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